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Have any of you had to deal with MEAN GIRLS in high school? In this week's Ask Kimberly video, I was inspired by Niki & Gabi, Tiffany Ma, and Alisha Marie to give you my own perspective and some hacks on how to deal with mean girls. Mean girl behaviour is absolutely NOT OK, and even though we all deal with it, it should be stopped, and bullying is absolutely not acceptable.
In this video I share with you guys a personal experience of dealing with mean girls in high school, and similar to the movie mean girls, it was not pleasant :-( Hope you'll share your mean girl/bullying stories in the comments below, so that you can gain support if this is happening to you.
Hello everybody. I hope you’re all having an amazing week. So, mean girls. I feel like every girl in the world has had to deal with the mean girl at some point in their life. I dealt with mean girls big time in highschool. They just do some really cruel things. They can cause like emotional damage, and stress, and all kinds of headaches and chaos that you just don’t need in your life.
In today’s video, as a relationship therapist, I’m going to give you guys the top tips that I have learned on how to deal with mean girls, how to get them to back off and leave you alone so that you can have the best possible experience in your life that you can.
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Number one is “Ditch the drama.” Ditch the drama is about actually walking away or actually just ignore them when they do something totally mean to you, okay. Mean girls actually thrive on drama, they want to see how you react, to like when they’re being all catty, and call you names, or doing things that are absolutely going to mortify you. When you just walk away and you don’t show any sign of emotion, it’s actually makes the mean girl kind of loose interest and realize that you’re not going to play any of her games, and you can now go on and live your life and be happy.
Number two, being a leader means that you are willing and able to say no to activities that other people are doing that you don’t want to do. This might involve like wearing pink on Fridays, cutting class, maybe doing some kind of activity that you’re not up for like my mind is going to that senior mean girls where they all dressed like Santa and doing a dance on stage.
If you don’t want to do that you can say no, and feel totally confident in yourself, and don’t worry about what other people going to think or if you’re going to miss that on something both fun. You don’t want to do it, you shouldn’t do it. This not only makes you look more confident to other people so they bother you less, but it also gives you the time and freedom to do things that you actually want to do.
If you want to sing in a school choir and join the athletes, which pretty much sounds like me when I was in highschool, you should totally do it, because that’s going to make you a happier and more rounded person who enjoys life.
Number three is “Slam Status.” Mean girl hierarchy is kind of like “Game of Thrones.” They can only be one queen, at least that’s what the mean girls think. This is totally scarcity mentality, because we all know there’s enough popularity and success to go around for everyone, but the mean girl feels it’s her job to push down anyone who actually threatens her status.
One way that you can actually prevent a mean girl from feeling threatened by you is actually to compliment her when you’re in a room. This can make her feel really good about herself but also makes her feel like the center of attention when you’re around, which makes her feel like you’re totally not a threat.
Number four is “Forget Fomo.” One tactic that mean girls notoriously use is posing photos on social media, or Snapchat, or whatever, a thing that they did purposely to make you feel excluded. If this ever happens to you, if someone is bragging about the amazing time that they had that you didn’t get to experience, don’t focus on what you missed out, because it’s probably wouldn’t as good as they say it is but also you can focus on what you actually accomplish during that time.