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INTERRACIAL DATING - White Men Black Women: Why White Guys Don't Approach

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White males often express their desire to meet, socialize and date black women they keenly admire. Though the woman he is interested in can tell he wants to ask her out, for some reason many white and other non-black males, hesitate and usually miss out by being passive. Most adults spend far more time every week at work than we do at home, and as a result, on the job romances are common. However, in a professional setting there may be some very real issues for a manager interested in dating an employee of any race to be concerned about, and we explore them here. CONNECT WITH DEBORRAH COOPER Twitter: @http://www.twitter.com/MsHeartBeat Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborrahxcooper Relationships Blog: http://www.survivingdating.com Black Vegan Blog: http://www.blacksgoingvegan.com Natural Hair Blog: http://www.yournaturalhair.com Amazon Author Page: http://www.amazon.com/Deborrah-Cooper/e/B0088RYP12 RECOMMEND A MALE GUEST for HE SAID/SHE SAID Complete form at https://goo.gl/forms/V2d3D5nDuxFr7Vdx2 HELP SUPPORT THIS CHANNEL A one-time flat amount donation, or a monthly pledge of anywhere between $5-50 will help show your belief in the hard work Deborrah does for single women worldwide. Support the growth of the channel by doing your part to get new equipment and production assistance to make better videos for you! Monthly Pledge: https://www.patreon.com/deborrahcooper One-Time Donation: https://www.paypal.me/deborrahcooper -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "Codependent Mother and Son Relationship Forces Husband to Say "It's Your Sorry Son or Me!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUzzvvTsXMg -~-~~-~~~-~~-~-
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Urban Introvert (1 day ago)
White men are psychotic and beyond weird. In order to date them you have to be crazy as hell. Not against WM BW relationships because I don't even date BW I'm just saying. White men ... ALL of them... are crazy AF.
Still trying to figure out what type of career I want for college. Thinking I can go for teaching. Become a tutor and travel. When I marry I PREFER a man of a different race. If you know what I mean
Deborrah Cooper (2 days ago)
Teaching English in a foreign country is a great idea.
sockit 2ya (6 days ago)
i like white guys as well & they do approach me by making conversation but......................they be married 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️
Ridge Underwood (9 days ago)
This is stupid like really. My girlfriend is a southern getto black woman and I’m a northern semi country white man and nah I wasn’t scared Black woman are just woman. No difference I went about it the same way as I always did before. I love her more then anything.
James Slye (8 days ago)
Respectively
Deborrah Cooper (9 days ago)
Awww I bet you two are super cute together. I like your attitude.
Stay Well (11 days ago)
Because white women and straight hair and soft personality is gorgeous
Deborrah Cooper (10 days ago)
LOLOL! Your stupidity is beyond measure.
Sucy Manbavaran (12 days ago)
I have been watching your channel for months. I'm a guy and wanted permission to donate to your patreon before I do anything. I know you get a ton of male trolls so I figure I ask.
Deborrah Cooper (12 days ago)
Really? Have you been in the chat with us Sucy? There are quite a few guys who come through who are mannerly and respectful, and everyone enjoys interacting with them. Just cause you are a male doesn't mean you aren't welcome to participate. You're right though about the troll population. lol Hey lemme tell you, when these expensive ass lights blow out, they don't care who helped purchase a new one. Neither do I. So your donation is welcome, and thank you. The link is in the show description page.
Jaka Kraigher (15 days ago)
White males don't go up to black women because they are scared of looking dumb...if you are black and interested in white males, look less intimidating...yes intimidating, men like the feeling of being in power and being able to protect you. Don't be too sassy because that shit could get annoying...black women are loud(no offense), look more feminine. And white males don't go up to black women because we kinda don't wanna give up white women...just the thought of a black thug with a white woman makes us feel angry(same with white thugs and latino thugs)...we want too see respect towards our women
inK Mav (23 hours ago)
+Deborrah Cooper I'm interested in learning as much as I can about what Black men and women are subjected to on a daily basis. I am aware of the white privilege I have and how it benefits me in American society, unfortunately. I believe I've only barely scratched the surface in learning about the struggles of Black men/women. What are some ways I can better learn about your daily struggles as a Black woman, despite never truly being able to understand what it feels like? Great video by the way!
inK Mav (23 hours ago)
Jaka, I don't know who raised you, but whoever it was, did a piss poor job. You are very nearly if not the epitome of an ignorant uneducated white male. I'm a 22-year-old white male who grew up sheltered, by my fathers doing, in a state comprised of 98% white people and I've NEVER said or thought the things you just did. Don't start saying shit about what white males do or don't do regarding talking to Black women and why, because you sure don't speak for me. Intimidating?? First off, Black women are no more "intimidating" than an attractive woman of any other race you'd see. Second, that word doesn't apply at all so mentioning that it's effect on a man's idea to have to always protect a woman is so archaic and irrelevant. Who the fuck even says "sassy" anyway? I don't get why so many people (mainly white) slam Black women for being bluntly outspoken about something. Personally, if you've got something to say regarding a comment or action of mine or another person, being straight up gets your point across clearly. You clearly haven't seen or met many Black women if you're telling them to look more feminine (yet another thankfully dying term) -_- Hah, white women want the whole dating process to be implicitly based where it seems you're supposed to read her mind about how she feels about you. It's so damn confusing and not hard to screw up. Lastly, due to your first mention of a Black man being that he is a "thug" and not simply a man tells a lot about what you think..as if nothing else before that implied otherwise. Dude, you shoulda gotten this through your clearly thick skull a long time ago, but here, I'll spell it out for you...WOMEN ARE NOT YOUR POSSESSIONS. YOU DON'T OWN THEM, regardless of the amount of melanin that's in their skin.
Leila Anderson (5 days ago)
Fuck you,fuck your problems. I pray no black woman gives you the time of day, you idiot
You know how many white men respect me because I'm loud and no nonsense? IDK where your definition of femininity comes from, but feminine energy has no bound definition. Its definately present enough to get the level of attention I receive.
+Deborrah Cooper well I don't agree with abortions only in certain circumstances, but I do know what you are saying, this is the reason women need to get on birth control to prevent his archaic thinking from reproducing.
Lexi Williams (19 days ago)
I always been attracted to white men since I was a younger teen, they just never seem to be interested or feel too intimidated to approach, there are loads of white guys in the gym that stare at me but never seem to smile or come up to me. Kinda disappointing, they literally have no idea that I got mad love for them 😂😍 lol
tzk121 (14 days ago)
+Jaka Kraigher why? If they are interested and can't man up, who needs that? No matter what race the man is.
Jaka Kraigher (15 days ago)
Go up to them...
Brooke (23 days ago)
I asked a co worker that I was interested in to lunch and he wanted to go as a group. So I declined.
Savannah Proctor (23 days ago)
+Brooke Pass on him, if he's taken then super duper pass. If he's scared ignore the fact that he exists.
Brooke (23 days ago)
Deborrah Cooper thanks for the advice. If he asks me to lunch then I’ll go. I think he may be in a relationship though, because we’ve flirted off and on for a few years and are friends but I’ll catch him staring at me sometimes and I’ll just smile and wave but he has never made a move.
Deborrah Cooper (23 days ago)
Hmmmm. He was scared. The other people serve as a buffer. Plus he may have been confused or felt some kinda way about you asking him out first, OR dating on the job period. Going as a group eradicates opportunities for office speculation and gossip. You shouldn't have declined but instead said "whatever makes you feel at ease."
maggie Mwash (1 month ago)
If God blessed me with a real gentleman, humble, honest, royal, understanding, handworking and a white one I would not let that chance pass me because I believe love is not on the colour but in the heart😍😍
Dark Star (1 month ago)
Long time ago I pursued black women as a white man. Well, I pursued women lol....some just happened to be black. Anyways I never had a problem getting a date with a black woman; one just needs to be genuine and respectfully ask the beautiful woman out like a man and drop the sheepish BS. Guts guys, find them. Eventually I began to frequently date a vibrant black woman in college. Sadly the issues that developed were not between us. It was her family. Yes, it got to the point of meeting the folks. That didn't go well at all. Within ten minutes at her folks place one of her brothers knocked me the F out....sucker punch from behind. Never saw it coming. Woke up on their couch a bit later to a house full of people screaming at each other and a mother terrified "the cracker on the couch" (yes, I remember clearly this is a quote and yes please laugh your asses off) was going to press charges....I didn't but I did leave. No, I did not break up with her but it got worse, not better over the following 2 months. The nightmare that followed is a long story so I'll just provide a list of what her father and brothers decided to do. 1. They threw a brick through my apartment sliding door window; not once but four times. My guess is each brother wanted to have a shot. Not cheap folks, not cheap. 2. Prank calls at all hours with death threats. Her dad and brothers took turns doing this crap. 3. Roadkill was mailed to me. The smell was...um...intense. 4. Roadkill mailed to my parents. THEY called the police for they had no idea wtf was going on. No, I did not tell them what was up for I didnt want to be the dude sending my gf's family to jail. 5. They almost got me fired from my job at the time with false claims of drug use on the job. Thank goodness I do not use drugs and could pass a drug test. 6. I was jumped and beaten unconscious as I was walking to my apartment from the parking lot. Once again I never saw it coming. Woke up in the hospital with five broken ribs, a broken collar bone, broken nose, an eye was swollen shut and I had a massive headache. Had to talk to the police then for they were waiting for me to wake up, which was good for.... 7. While I was out cold her brothers destroyed my car; it was a black 1994 Jaguar XJ Series that I had saved up for years to get the mad cash to buy. I agreed to drop the charges if they paid for ALL damages and my medical bills. Don't know how they managed it but they found the money real quick. Needless to say, we broke up. Too much BS and she was convinced her brothers were going to end up killing me. I still wonder how she is doing all these years later though. She's the "one that got away". I know I'm not free of bigotry. We are all the products of the world and culture we were raised. Regardless... Hate should not be a family value for anyone. Peace to all. P.S. - Wherever you are Lilly, I will remember that night under the full moon talking about our dreams till the day I die.
Savannah Proctor (23 days ago)
😂 woah, man. The first punch should have been enough to know what was up. You've had the rare look into what we face when trying to do anything you y'all. The only exception is they let you live, that doesn't usually happen on our end. Good luck in figuring things out.
Tara Phillips (24 days ago)
Dark Star wow
All Me (27 days ago)
That's terrible what they did to you
Dark Star (1 month ago)
+Deborrah Cooperthanks much. Obviously it still stings me decades later. I was contemplating proposing so...yeah... ...but we all get harsh life lessons. We have to make lemonade out of all those lemons so we do not get sour.
maggie Mwash (1 month ago)
What a sad story sorry for what happened if it was meant to be then God will do it for you and if not sorry to say this but it wount but let God take control ok
Wyatt Bailey (1 month ago)
Honestly, I don’t find it hard going up and talking to black women. Y’all honey’s are beautiful and snappy and this Irishman loves it 👍🏻
Lexi Williams (19 days ago)
😍
Dalila Watts (1 month ago)
👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Thando Buthelezi (1 month ago)
where can I get white guys on a daily basis? just place dominated by white guys? My Goodness I've beeeeeeeen searching and nothing 💔
Pixe Fairy Tale (1 month ago)
Most white men I meet in person aren't interested buy I've met 6 that have talked to me in person the other 4 I met online dating for interracial dating I wish more white guys would approach me in person so I can flirt withe them although I am married to a white man and my ex husband was white to white men are gorgeous I love pale skin, blonde hair and blue eyes or brown or black hair with green eyes
Savannah Proctor (23 days ago)
Sounds like a fetish not cool
Tara Phillips (24 days ago)
Pixe Fairy Tale you need to stop
Aquarian Beauty (1 month ago)
There is a cute white guy at my gym our eye contact with each other is crazy, he gave me a half of smile the other day I wonder if he will ever approach me 🤔🤣 oh well life goes on.
Dennis Bowen (1 month ago)
My queen had to approach me. I think the white guys that are into women of color are really shy because i am shy but he definilently thinks your cute with that smile description he gave you
Skenderbeg Shala (1 month ago)
Aquarian Beauty i'm white
Skenderbeg Shala (1 month ago)
Aquarian Beauty i would approach u instantly
Aquarian Beauty (1 month ago)
+Mike Mecklenborg aww thank you so much for the compliment 😊 I actually did make the first move and asked if he needed to use the 35lb weights I was using 👍🏽
Mike Mecklenborg (1 month ago)
Just make the first move. He maybe shy but if that's your picture I guarantee he will be interested because you look beautiful to me and I'm a white guy. Beyond that its all about the personality and whether the two of you mesh.
Jack Jones (1 month ago)
I am a white man married to a GORGEOUS ebony queen. I never thought I would date outside my race but after meeting her, I had no idea what I was missing. She has the natural hair too which I love. But I also like weaves and extensions. It's TRUE what they say, once you go black, you never go back (at least in my situation). I have nothing against white women but it makes no sense how black women get so much hate when they are just as beautiful as any other race of women. What's even more disheartening is a lot of the hate black women get is from their own men. I have also seen a lot of comments from black men hating on the sistas for dating outside their race but last I checked, its 2019 and ALL women are free to do what they want. I don't see a lot of hate coming from white men when white women date outside their race. It just seems hypocritical hearing black men hate on their women for dating outside their race because historically, everyone knows that black men date outside their race more than any other group of people. I say fuck the haters and if you are a white man, I think you should not box yourself in to one group of people because you can be missing something very special. Same goes for black women. There are a lot of white men who are "secretly" attracted to black women because we have not gotten past the taboo in society of white men dating black women. But I'm starting to see a trend of it becoming more acceptable and it is very encouraging to see. Love has no color
Deborrah Cooper (1 month ago)
+Candyce Evette He won't cause he is scared. Just flirt with him. Wave at him, smile brightly. Ask how his day is going. Tell him you hoped he was working so you could see his handsome face or beautiful smile or whatever you want to say. He may be shocked so don't expect an immediate response. He will have to get himself together and think about what just happened and what it means. So the NEXT time you are in the store he may ask for your number or something. But I'm sure he will be dumbstruck when you flirt and not know WTF to say! lolol
Candyce Evette (1 month ago)
It's this white man at the market I shop @ who has the biggest crush on me but he's also very sweet. Next time I shop there... I hope he does ask me out.
MurderousLady (1 month ago)
In the UK you never see a black woman and a white man but I don't think it's because of these reasons. The white English men just don't seem interested in black girls.
Aquarian Beauty (1 month ago)
John Jones aww thanks 😉
Adi Metohu (1 month ago)
Really 😒😒
John Jones (1 month ago)
+Aquarian Beauty they should ,you look fine as hell from that little pic
Deborrah Cooper (1 month ago)
+Aquarian BeautyDon't listen to what she is talking about. You gotta remember a lot of white women are very insecure and their only sense of worth comes from being presented as the #1 source of beauty and womanhood by white males. So when white males look at women who are non-white (women who these ladies were trained to believe are less than they), and choose said women, and exclaim over said women of color's beauty, the white girls feel betrayed and anxious. That is why they feel the need to come onto a channel where some white men's preferences for brown is being examined and throw shade.
Aquarian Beauty (1 month ago)
Really? That's interesting white males watch me all the time here in NYC they just never approach lol
Winnie Stefan (2 months ago)
As a woman I have always wanted to date a white guy. I think black and whites make a perfect couple. I'll gladly want to date a white guy.
Skenderbeg Shala (1 month ago)
❤️
Quarnesha Thomas (2 months ago)
Can the people with negative rude comments stop with all the disrespectful stuff torwds us dark Africans American wemon? because we have feelings as well as you do ! Well the people with positive nice comments thank you for being very mature i like people with positive comments you know !
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Nobody was talking about dark black women. The conversation is black women vs white males period. If your self esteem is so low you concern yourself with and feel bad about what complete strangers on the internet say, not directed at you personally at all, then you have problems and need therapy. Seriously.
Quarnesha Thomas (2 months ago)
I'm a young 20yr old dark skinned woman and i am interested in white men please don't take this the wrong way but if i were to date a white man i would like for him to treat me with respect care for me protect me defend me i will do the same for him to i will treat him with respect protect him defend him care for him my parents are not racist they are ok with black and white 💑 they won't judge us they will be happy for us. I also would love to get married and adopted kids that is my comment to you all!
John Jones (1 month ago)
You rock
DJ NL3 (1 month ago)
Winfridah KERUBO ONGERI where are you from :)
Winnie Stefan (2 months ago)
+DJ NL3 I'll gladly take you for you ❤️
DJ NL3 (2 months ago)
i'm a 18yr white man and also looking for black woman, and i would like for her to treat me with respect care for me protect me defend me i will do the same for her
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Your problem is you identify not as a woman, not as a black woman, but as a "dark skinned" woman. You define yourself primarily by your skin tone which is some ole slave shit. Get off that mentality. You are a woman. Period. Men will love you because you are a woman and they are attracted to you. Period. That attraction goes deeper than your "dark skinned" and includes your personality, sense of humor, intellect, ability to communicate with him, sense of fun and adventure, sexual compatibility, etc. Please expand your horizons when it comes to who you are. This is very disturbing.
LizzyYouHONEYBDC BROWN (2 months ago)
Why are so many white men pssys when it comes to ADULT CHILDREN who are LAZY ASSES? THIS GUY NEVER SAYS "NO" His daughter met me one day and asked him to ask me if I would babysit her 5 children while she did a girls night the next day! He has 3 daughters and 4 sons...I kid you not ALL of them are worthless! Nothing like their Dad....he is a hard worker and they are work less😂 all the daughters have multiple baby daddies amd they get pregnant everytime a sibling says they have a child on the way! I think they are competing for his attention! He said I have to like the children and that pretty much squashed the fun at that point! Different Views and Values...
Savannah Proctor (23 days ago)
That's crazy
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Five kids? That's a suicide mission!!
LizzyYouHONEYBDC BROWN (2 months ago)
I definitely meet white men who seem interested iall the time😳but they seem more embarrassed because they are uncomfortable around other "white men & women" watching.... 😊They love my vibe and we always begin talking about the Outdoors, Fishing, boating, off road biking, hiking, and more.... they love my trucks too😂 Always enjoy food around the globe and families....but I DO NOT LIKE Guys who allow their adult children to lay around, hands always out and the enabling their adult children who have a drug problem is a Major NO from me....
linda sibanda (2 months ago)
They don't approach because they are afraid of how their family will react. They can't take you out in public, you just become a dirty little secret IF they do approach you
Aquarian Beauty (1 month ago)
John Jones I agree if someone personally cares about you they want you to be around family/friends.
missiah j (1 month ago)
100000000000000000% ACCURATE!!! EVERYONE NEEDS TO SEE THIS COMMENT!!!!!
John Jones (1 month ago)
That's not true at all. I dont care about none of that and I'm in the deep south but I dont know how to meet a black women and would love to.
Razzy1312 (2 months ago)
I'm a 28 year old white man who's totally open to dating a back woman, but I have to admit I would fear what her friends and family would think. If she's from an area with greater diversity it probably wouldn't be much of an issue. If she's from a predominantly black community, I fear that her family/friends would forever judge me based on my whiteness for the rest of my life and I'd never be given a "fair shake". I know it's a somewhat unreasonable fear because love conquers all, etc., but hey there it is. The irony is it's probably the same thing black people who want to date a white person worry about in the modern era. The sad truth is, many whites have the idea that "black people hate me" drilled into their head by the media the same way black people have the idea that "white people hate me" ingrained into them. It's that racial divide agenda being spread by the MSM.
Sucy Manbavaran (12 days ago)
I'm 25, a white man. I find black women gorgeous and its sickening how not just black men, but other men will call them unattractive. I am guilty of not being brave enough to fight the social stigma. I have been told I have a fetish and I never understood why people throw that card. We're all human beings and I shouldn't need someone to tell me that my attraction preferences are bullshit. There are also social consequences we are all afraid of committing. I dated a hispanic woman in high school and I felt the racial tension from her father and mother, it made me uncomfortable. I find darker skin sexy and you shouldn't feel ashamed of it.
maggie Mwash (1 month ago)
Hey razzy1312 in love matters colour does not matter neither what people say or think about you guys. If you meet a girl and both of you fall inlove and maybe you see you got a future with her then marry her your family will eventually accept her with time same case to the girls family. Learn to follow your heart and not what people will say OK.
Thando Buthelezi (1 month ago)
Razzy1312 well it wouldnt to try right? 😊
John Jones (1 month ago)
I totally agree,
Candyce Evette (1 month ago)
My sister's white husband of two decades caught hell in the beginning... They got pregnant before marriage.... They were teens.... And the fact that he was white... My mother more than my father had an issue with it... Then after a while he became like family. I didn't like him at first either.... But it was bc he was rude asf... Lol... Not bc he was white... But we are actually cool asf now. He's a great dad to say the least.
Mike Mecklenborg (2 months ago)
White men are so tired of being called racist because most of us are not. Society has created this hatred for everything white that most white men just stay away anymore. I have no problem with people dating whoever they want. I myself find beautiful women in all races and when I was single I would not have had a problem dating a women of any race. Actually I had a crush on a beautiful black women but what I really loved about her was here pleasant personality but unfortunately I was too shy to express myself to her but I know she knew how I felt when I smiled at her and she would smile back. Nothing ever happened just the occasional glance and smile. I have no problem with people wanting to stay within their own ethic group if that is where they feel comfortable. As a white man who was previously in the military I was able to experience working with people of all races and find that most of us have the same wants and desires but how we go about it is different and its mostly because of the way we were raised. White guys just tend to be more shy but we can make good partners, husbands and fathers if given a chance. We tend not to make the first step but once we feel comfortable with the person were with then that is when our personality comes out. I have no problem with a women letting a man know she is interested regardless of race because once that initial awkwardness is gone you will be surprised how nice white men can be.
Candyce Evette (1 month ago)
I've met some really good friends, male friends, who happen to have to been white... Some of them I crushed on secretly. One got away and lord... Looking back now I wish I would have gotten to know him better.
codzydee (2 months ago)
im dark and australian my aunty has been married to her white husband since 1975 still love each other so pplz dont pigeon hole love or skin colour xox
Michael Aleman Sr. (2 months ago)
Mmmmm black women 🤤
maggie Mwash (1 month ago)
What abt us white man🤔🤔
MurderousLady (1 month ago)
See this is gross, you're sexualising a group of people and that, to me, is nasty. They're not different from other women. Usually see this behaviour with Asian girls being objectified.
PABIV (2 months ago)
Yea, wish this was easier for real. Saw a fine woman at the convenience store the other day but got turned off when she started talking ugly and mean to her child. I've seen this at least 6 times before. In public, make eye contact, realize they have a kid in tow (yea fine) and they immediately realize that kid is a burden and in most cases a deal breaker for most men and start being nasty towards them. THAT behavior doesn't help, ladies. It says things about you.
Millicent Evans (2 months ago)
My god is real.i have seen.what god has done for me. My late mother and i attented church. She told me to put my trust in god. And i am.not saying everyone believes in god. But having a faith has been my strength and a postitive attitude. Life has its up and down. But i cannot give up i have to encourage my family to trust in the lord. Dont let the devil lead you down the wrong path. God shines his light and nothing will let me loose my way. Peace perfect peace in this world.♥️👍
Just My Opinion (2 months ago)
BW, some of you sound extremely harsh and need to stop acting like WM are timid and weak. I find WM to be very strong men and know what they want/like. BW need to be more approachable, less defensive, and learn to smile.
Millicent Evans (2 months ago)
God sees no colour. ♥️
Kimberlyn McDonald (1 month ago)
Millicent Evans it is a beautiful sentiment but He definitely sees color. Just look at the flowers, the birds, the planets and mankind.
Millicent Evans (2 months ago)
+Deborrah Cooper good morning deborrah i am.sorry if i offended you by my comment i meant that we are all gods people and we should not keep going on about the colour of our skin. But in todays society it is a issue. I was raised to be polite and kind to people i did not mean any harm. I believe in fairness. And it is just a public comment. My opinion to yours will not be the same. Please forgive me if i offend you that is not my intention. Have a lovely day and peace be with you.
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
Obviously if you believe in God and you believe God made everything on this planet, then GOD made people, leaves, animals, sky and water, flowers and insects, vegetables and fruits all different colors. Obviously GOD sees color. "God sees no color" What an asinine statement!!!! The problem is that mankind has assigned labels of worth and value to various colors instead of seeing everyone as equal but different. Stop using those dumbass blanket statements which eradicate differences and instead focus on our commonalities.
Louise Jones (2 months ago)
God sees no Colour, but people sure do.
Deborrah Cooper (2 months ago)
There is no God.
hellomikie92 (3 months ago)
Well some are shy, some doesn't wanna date interracial some are afraid at what they would think, their parents could be racist, he could be gay, it can be anything.
Deborrah Cooper (3 months ago)
A grown man who seeks parental approval on who he loves is a wimpy sorry simp with no balls and no testosterone.
kandacegunter (3 months ago)
I have had some FINE white men approach me over the years.. I mean movie star handsome white man fine. I've even take a chance and gone on a couple of pleasant dates, Unfortunately I'm always in a damn relationship when I get the approach and their always from out of town. I always say if I'm ever single again I'm going to take a leap and try to date white men for awhile.
John Jones (1 month ago)
Fine as you look in your picture, you should have you pick of men #dime
vimi sadasivan (2 months ago)
Even I am attracted to white men.. can I know how and where were you able to attract their attention from?
craigslistrr O (4 months ago)
As a white guy, I have to say that I have seen some beautiful, GORGEOUS black women, i would love to date. who ,the moment they open their mouths remove any hope of ever getting to know them. They look so classy and beautiful but speak with so much disrespect and vulgarity, they act out in public and look for confrontation. That type of behavior just reinforces the stereotypical views that prevent the white guy from taking that bold step.
maggie Mwash (1 month ago)
We are different craigslistrro we are bought up with different styles and we have some nyc african ladies I can support my self on that and there are others 2😜
Just My Opinion (2 months ago)
I work with WW and I would never say some of the things I hear them say. But, WW are not stereotyped but BW always are. Where are these women you're referencing?
Deborrah Cooper (3 months ago)
There are millions of highly educated, professional, born and raised middle to upper class black women. Daughters of politicians, judges, attorneys, physicians, university professors, business owners, CFOs, CEOs, etc. The fact that you are attracted to ghetto hoodrats is your fault! stop watching rap videos and thinking those little chicks are representative of black womanhood. OMG men are so stupid. You don't judge a woman's class by how she LOOKS, you judge it by how she conducts herself. I confuse people because I am all over the place. I was raised in the hood, but my mother was raised middle class and was college educated...my dad was an entrepreneurial thug. I went to charm school, had music tennis dance and acting lessons, and learned French and golfing before college. I am considered quite erudite, and possess an amazingly extensive vocabulary. I have extensive knowledge of the law, and am very adept at using and learning the latest technology. However, I also have no problem going back to my hood roots and cussing your muthafucking ass smooth the fuck out. I also love some Hennessey - the drink of hoodrats. So you get the side of me that you deserve to see. Shoot your best shot. See which Deb comes forth.
Chantall Green (4 months ago)
Meh never felt like guys were afraid to approach me... actually more white guys do Maybe cause of the area I’m from idk
Deborrah Cooper (3 months ago)
Your appearance has a lot ot do with it as well.
Eros Delorenzi (4 months ago)
I wish Black people just leave us Europeans alone, Go chase other races that's people of color!
Jaka Kraigher (15 days ago)
+Miss Roberts racist?
Jaka Kraigher (15 days ago)
I'm not racist but I SOMETIMES feel the same...the black thugs that treat white women like they are some trash, I don't want that. But if he got a good job, respects women...i'll treat him like a brother. I'd love to have a mulatto wife btw 😋
Miss Roberts (26 days ago)
The last time i I checked no one is chasing no nasty caveman genetic mutation white trash. LOL
maggie Mwash (1 month ago)
You talk like you breath in carbonoxide and us africans breath in oxygen, but we are all the same either white or black. The body parts you got thats the same thing we got so I dont see anything with white & black loving each other
1004 Grizzies (1 month ago)
That's what they do.Use people for profit and favors.There takers not givers at all.
Chump Johnson (5 months ago)
I was always afraid to approach them and then one approached me. We dated for a while and was great. She taught me a lot and after her I have no fear to approach and actually prefer black women.
Chump Johnson (5 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper Looking back I guess it was rejection I was afraid of. Living in the Midwest at the time 20 years ago I rarely if ever saw a black woman dating a white man. I definitely wanted to but being young I just assumed black women wouldn’t be interested in me. I’m glad she approached me!!!!!
Deborrah Cooper (5 months ago)
Why were you afraid?
Oscar Gold (5 months ago)
And what's wrong with fetishes?
AriEl MiX (4 months ago)
It's fine if there are other points of attraction in addition to a fetish. But if this physical sexual thing is the only one that attracts a man then it's wrong. It won't last.
Anna Aida (5 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper fetishes such as a foot fetish is common fetish and I'm fine with it
Deborrah Cooper (5 months ago)
Nothing if you have someone who knowingly participates WILLINGLY in your thing. But to have it and trick people into thinking you love them and are interested in more when you are just entertaining your sick twisted freak ass fetish is wrong as two left feet.
Every time a white guy wants to man up and engage the black ladies, Someone always uses the "Fetish" word. Why? Now there's no particular stereotype to who that person maybe. it's often enough another white guy maybe even the guy you came to the party with. "Is this some kind of fetish"? Sometimes it's a black woman, but it's almost like people are trying to ruin it for everybody??
Kira Lunar (4 months ago)
Basically, they're hypocrites. The behaviors that they accuse Non-Black men of, they have no problems accepting from their own and Black males are usually more vulgar and brutal about it. It's basically, a scare tactic.
Thank you Debb! You get it. A man likes a women and he's ready to work, What's the problem right? B or w?
Deborrah Cooper (5 months ago)
Don't pay them no mind.
Punisher Fan (7 months ago)
because as a white man who is interested in darker skinned girls it has more to do with how much we're told black people hate us by the media, especially if we disagree with you politically we get called Nazi's and creepy people.
maggie Mwash (1 month ago)
If you listen to what people say you will never be happy follow your heart ok
delightful moments (2 months ago)
+hellomikie92 , I agree with your statement. I am a conservative Black woman, and I vote Republican. In 2016, I voted for Trump - Greatest President ever!!!!!!!!😀
Just My Opinion (2 months ago)
All Blacks are not Democrat. All WM are not racist. My husband is White. We are so different but so much alike too. We compliment each other. Don't be afraid to venture out. I love my Honey so much.
hellomikie92 (3 months ago)
+musicalone8123 Why would you call Republicans racist? Who cares if they think differently then you, not all are racist. This is a free country after all.
Alisha Dennis (4 months ago)
+Anna Aida she dated, probably had sex with didnt marry & that isnt serious dating. her family wont have poor white boy for father to their grand children tradtionally.
Jay Harris (7 months ago)
I think black women should date white men seriously
Miss Roberts (26 days ago)
I disagree.
blaze gamingHD (1 month ago)
I think they make the most attractive children tbh
Quarnesha Thomas (1 month ago)
Jay Harris i agree with you you got it i love that. thought
Cinnamon C (5 months ago)
Jay Harris I agree
Senait Ashenafi (8 months ago)
I went out with a white dude one time...But It didn't work out cause he ain't have no lips to kiss...White boys seriously ain't got no lips!!..Think about it Sistas....It's a BIG problem..LOL
Miss Roberts (26 days ago)
Yeah, that's true. A friend of mine tried to kiss one and end up kissing his teeth. Ewwwww. I like my men dark with full lips.
Shawn Macdonald (1 month ago)
I have seen more black dudes abandoning their women in a time of crisis more than any other race of men in my hometown, lol. Of couse the funniest one was when this black dude was arguing with this bouncer outside of a bar. I could tell that his black girlfriend was shivering her ass off and just wanting to get inside. Of course once it got to heated, the black guy speed walked away from her and went around the corner, lol.
delightful moments (1 month ago)
+Diana Wellington 2.0 , I agree with you about this. I have a problem with them, when they don't defend my honor.
delightful moments (1 month ago)
Sensor Ashenafi, White guys with no lips are the best kissers.☺️ This is coming from a Black woman.
Chichi Chiugo (2 months ago)
Priorities...
ChastityChained (8 months ago)
I don't respect any man that won't approach me respectfully. Your approach is what I consider.
Gfhj Ghffh (8 months ago)
If they're not interested that's okay. That means there's more chocolaté para mi ahah🍫👅.
Breanna Nouveaux (8 months ago)
Because they believe the lies black males spread about us on media. Look at how black males portray black women in music, movies and even their comedy? AND top it off with black women never questioning it and being seen on TV screens crying for these bozos and it seems like both black males and black women agree with this imagery and it therefore must be true. Also, its mysogynoir. Even if a lot of our stereotypes are completely ridiculous, white men WANT to believe it because white men are not in competition with black males (thank you KENDALL st Charles for pointing this out) they are and always have been in competition with black women. Because black women pose the biggest threat. The vast majority of the time, black males are as white supremacist as the KKK so no one is worrying about THEM. Its black women that pose the biggest threat. White males fear the power that black women represent. They only propel THEIR women because their women make mini copies of THEM! This is why they go for PALE asian women and not darker ones. And when they realize asians genes are hella strong, it's too late. 😂😂🤣 But a woman that can stand on her own and NOT make children in his imagery(generally speaking) h He doesnt know what to do with that! That is a subconcious understanding. When they get over all that, they get obsessed!
+Deborrah Cooper During the Biafra war that happened where they cut off the women's breast so the baby could starve to death 😌😔
BL BLOCK (7 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper we actually taught Arabs and whites how to make money. They came to our universities and learned. Read the historical literature. Look at present day Africa, the media successfully having you think Africans aren't doing anything. Quite the contrary. A few years ago, Muammar Gaddafi was killed because he wanted to unite saharan Africa with north east Africa under one currency to control its resources. The structure would not allow as Europe would be devastated financially. Its countless other examples where blacks and Africans controlled entire systems. FYI, white population is down world-wide so it will be more measures used to try for them to maintain their place... Its not working. The American BLACK, the Caribbean BLACK, and the south American BLACK is the strongest, most mentally capable and ingenious human to ever walk the planet. Every male thug, female hoochie mama or fcuk boy thats negatively deplicted in the media, an army of 1000 strong is positively affecting change. The media wont tell you that, but they will have you believe that you need to go elsewhere for your needs...
BL BLOCK (7 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper great conversation but genital mutilation was introduced from Arab slave traders AND the spread of Islam, as they wanted to control the urges of women, both Arab and Black. Rings on the neck and piercings and tattoos are cultural aspects of life that cannot be understood from a western perspective. The slave trave was called the Trans-Indian Ocean slave trade, based primarily on sex. The women were the commodity and were used to grow harems to illustrate wealth. Have you ever wondered why the people in the middle east are dark? Its that African genetic that still populate their blood. Where are the african males? Well, they were castrated and killed because there was no need. Unlike, the transatlantic slave trade, The men was the commodity because labor was the driving force... The disrespect and dehumanizing attitudes were introduced by white. The easiest reference is in our American Constitution when Blacks were considered 3/5 human and white women had no rights at all... So from a white man's historical perspective and the fact that white women had no rights, its not a far jump to arrive that black men were considered equal to pigs and black women were considered vessels to breed, serve, and disposable... Check and read the U.S. constitution, the Black Codes, and historical slave records to see the language and adjectives used to describe black women and men...
White Knight 5 (7 months ago)
veronicajade20 Also too, I think there is a segment of the white male population who are probably oblivious to any interest in them by black women. Hell we are oblivious to interest by our own white ladies. A white man can be pretty hard to reach like that. Also quite a many of them are reserved, antisocial recluses unlike the seemingly more forward and outgoing nature of black women. I know many of us, particularly of German and Swiss descent who wont even talk to their neighbors unless prodded. I am personally this way myself. I have been to New York City a few times and I hate it. Not a city person at all. Perhaps some of this will enlighten you as to why white men are the way they are.
White Knight 5 (7 months ago)
veronicajade20 Well America's rural population is actually declining with more and more people moving to urban areas and the country side is where most whites reside, including myself. Someday your wish will happen as more people become better adjusted to other races. But right now I don't think white men would be too thrilled at the idea of totally breeding our European genetics out of existence even though it seems quite trivial to women.
Ms.Bubs4fun (8 months ago)
That has always been a pet peeve of mine when I hear black women say a white guy has a fetish. I always try to correct them and say maybe he just has a preference or he just finds you attractive. So many black women have such low self-esteem and think that no one wants them and it's so sad and untrue. You never hear white woman being accused of having a fetish for black men, evn though more of them date outside the race than white men.
Tessy May (4 months ago)
MxTooReal another way to see it. Very true
Diana Wellington 2.0 (7 months ago)
I'm trying to figure it out. They don't want White men to fetishize them, but on the other hand, nobody wants them. Asian women are fetishized by White men. Guess what Asian females do? They advantage of it by quietly moving to area where White men will see then more frequently and seek then out. Asian females don't white men fetishizing them as something to fear, but as something that gives them power and desirability. Where Black women see fetish, Asian women see desirability.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
True. Only people with low self esteem and no confidence see rejection everywhere.
veronicajade20 (8 months ago)
I honestly think their fear of making an approach is due to cultural conditioning by their families and the media. There’s really nothing that can be done unless THEY want to work to address that fear. If not, oh well, life goes on. And thankfully, if you’re a black woman that’s open to dating QUALITY men, including QUALITY white men, there are some decent, quality white men from all over the world. Some of the white male losers in the comments here were clearly rejected by their OWN women and couldn’t get any woman of any race unless they paid them. They ARE NOT quality men, just because they just so happen to be white. They’re rejects and they know it. We know it too, so they can get lost. Anyway, you don’t have to be stuck with one group of knucklehead men from ANY one country. There are more men on Earth than women - we don’t have to settle.
Alisha Dennis (4 months ago)
I think you have a point. the family influence dose affect their decisions, until they chose to be independent in their date choices & have a fabulous love with us....
Anna Aida (5 months ago)
veronicajade20 😂 sister White Men my sisters date were what I call work in progress types. mostly low confidence and they were shy types. my sisters were completed by my sisters. .my sisters fixed and made them have more confidence and lost their shyness
There’s more to life then white men they are not the only option in life. There’s many guys who are well rich in color *other than black men and who are way more gorgeous than white men. Explore your options beyond them.
Senait Ashenafi (8 months ago)
Exactly..Unless they have dark features, I don't find most white males attractive anyway, especially here in the South..Most of them look like shyt....I'm mostly attracted to Latino and mixed men..
Ebony and Ivan (8 months ago)
WHite men are very apologetic when they approach me. THey ask me a number of times if I date white men. I tell me "im a woman and I date men."
Layla Melodie (4 months ago)
I don't...I think it's kinda cute. Male coyness that is.
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
Exactly. Like ...what a strange question.
Senait Ashenafi (8 months ago)
I hate when they ask that shyt.. A man is a man at the end of the day.....
blondegamerguy (8 months ago)
White men generally never cold approach, hit on or ask out ANY woman, whether she is Black, White or otherwise. Most of us don't give a sh*t about women, to be honest. They aren't worth our time. We White men are naturally MGTOW. We don't need women in our lives. They are a nuisance, really.
cgt2816 (2 months ago)
+blondegamerguy Troll 🚨
+Ben Volkmann That's mostly because of your high suicide rates and meth and heroin epidemic
Alisha Dennis (4 months ago)
Your strange & bitter, & silly & a foolish misguided young person. Most of us dont live like you & your bitter young narcissistic buddies. Nor do we want to..caring about people is the most important part of your character in life. Your failing, seek help for sure. too bitter to be so young...
Kira Lunar (4 months ago)
blondegamerguy Your ancestors spent a lot of time building your own women up on pedestals, where ever your ancestors went, while messing with other cultures of women. I'm just going to be honest. I feel like the MGTOW are so privileged, that you created your own problems. You made a monster (White women) and now, you have no idea what to do with them, since they are now turning against you or more so, biting the hand that fed them. Why are all women to blame for your ancestors' actions of instilling entitlement and privilege in White and fair skinned women?
Sherrell Tremaine (5 months ago)
Senait Ashenafi all the other men have noticed our loyalty, white men are attracted to the idea of having/hanging onto all they want to possess...I married a sexy athletic black man who work amongst white men 2 of which have black wives, very interesting insight???
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
What people forget is that the majority of black women in interracial relationships are with another person of color. Latino, Hawaiian, Filipino, Samoan, Tongan, Chinese, Korean, East Indian, or French, French Canadian, Italian, etc. There is a big world out here and there is no need to think there are only two races of men to choose from. Come on you all, stop. Broaden your horizons. In this situation the guy was white, but if he is NON-BLACK that is all that you should be looking at.
Miss Roberts (26 days ago)
True. Nobody wants a basic pale white boy.
Alisha Dennis (4 months ago)
Thank God we black women have variety & choices today. We don't need to or want to deal with one race of men. It's a variety of men of different races & cultures dating & getting married to black women & on the increase. There's so many variety of beautiful, smart precious black women. who could resist.........
Kid Gravity (8 months ago)
BMCollectiveLosers ma'am, no disrespect, but you didn't read that article, based on your reply. It stated 9% of black women were married interracially as of 2010, compared to 22% for black men. Refer to "Section 4": https://www.google.com/amp/www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2017/06/12/key-facts-about-race-and-marriage-50-years-after-loving-v-virginia/%3famp=1
I’m just now reading your reply after I typed my comment 😆 I love your channel auntie Deb! Keep up the good work!
tani t (8 months ago)
It could be a woman, in Australia, women and girls called Jamie get nicknamed Jim or Jimmy.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
I don't have much traffic from Australia per the traffic analysis provided by Google (1%), but that might be a valid point.
Tracey Smith (8 months ago)
If a man isn't approaching me, I take it to mean he's not interested... or he doesn't think I'm worth risking possible rejection. I remember a man telling me something I've never forgotten: A man can be attracted... but sometimes not attracted enough. If he's not willing to make his feelings known, and let the chips fall, he's not that interested. I'm old school... and I'm old. I don't have time for stolen glances, nervous fidgeting, mixed signals, endless flirting... nope. If his job is a reason for him to pause, then it may not be a possibility until you leave. But it's time to dance or get off the stage. Also, he has to consider how discreet she'll be. I've worked in office situations and I can always tell when a man and woman are dating/having sex, because the woman gives it away. She starts hanging out at his desk and marking her territory... and the man acts no different. I don't approach men. If I'm open to a man's attention, I will be friendly and approachable...that's throwing the ball in his court. It's up to him to decide if the possibility of a yes overrides a possible no.
Aquarian Beauty (1 month ago)
I don’t find this 100% true because I’ve been told by many guys that I’m very intimidating so they don’t approach.
Tara Phillips (2 months ago)
Tracey Smith I agree men black or white go after the woman they want no excuse why the don't approach you
Or.... He might think you're too attractive and out of his league. That is what my husband told me. He thought I was too good for him and out of his league 😌
Sherrell Tremaine (5 months ago)
Tracey Smith I'm with you when u right, n sometimes when you wrong cuz u my MF sista 😁😁😁
Anna Aida (5 months ago)
Tessa Greer uh not true lol y'all never met shy men have you? I have my boyfriend was a shy type. I used my intelligence to figure a way to tell him I'm interested. he got it and slowly but surely came to me. been dating for 4 years now. he likes to cook [ knows Italian and Greek and Spaniard foods] and loves to give me foot massages 💆
Mulatto Gold (8 months ago)
White and Asian men control the power structure globally. A Black woman would be a fool not to consider dating and marriage. Btw no decent man wants a hood rat or woman who always state I'm a strong Black woman or I'm a Queen and don't behave accordingly.
Jaka Kraigher (15 days ago)
+tshort202000 and who do they owe money to? White men
tshort202000 (7 months ago)
Mother ship lol White men won't have shit in the future. Why don't you google some of these "white owned" companies and see how many BILLIONS of dollars they are in the hole Lol, yes we will see how powerful white men are when the Us Federal Reserve stops printing money for their ass and China becomes the new "World Reserve"
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
BOOM!
Mother ship (8 months ago)
I say the SAME thing. White and Asian men are the future. NO other man will even matter in the future.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
I tell them the same thing. No need to talk about it. Instead, BE about it.
joisan mi (8 months ago)
I find it difficult to date someone that you work with. If you have any conflicts in the relationship remember you have to see this man everyday. I have known people who keep office relationships the secret and even who have gotten married but it definitely takes cooperation between the tooth and maturity to make it work.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
The two times I went out with someone at work, they were the one who gave it away. Doing everything you just said. I was chill, but the guys were just too worried about what I was doing, who I was doing it with, and where. It was so stupid. Once I got a little older I realized my daddy was right and I never did it again.
Tracey Smith (8 months ago)
joisan mi Yes, it takes a lot of maturity and discretion. I know of ONE instance where a man and woman were dating, and NOBODY knew, until they announced their engagement. We were in shock, because they both kept it under wraps. In most cases I've seen, the woman will start to act different - she'll find excuses to always be at his desk, or/and she's watching his interactions with other women in the office. Her actions give it away, and before you know it the whole office knows.
Kevo A (8 months ago)
I think interracial dating is wrong especially when the illuminati and liberals are pushing for it .people need to ask why in the past the Australia natives were forced to breed with the whites to breed out their color .in America they are doing the same why because when you breed out the black they are less strong and easily controlled.black people stay black dont be controlled by the liberals they been trying hard to control blacks with planned parenthood the illuminati interracial dating.
hellomikie92 (3 months ago)
+Random white women and men are promoted heavily among interracial dating in tv shows, movies, commercials, etc, that's why many humans of every skin color wants them. I'll prove it to you, type in white couple of white couple with baby in the images part of any major search engine. Bing, Google, etc Many results shows a white person with mixed kids or somebody else of a different race. Then type in black couple, Asian couple, or Asian couple or black couple with baby, etc after. Many results will show people of the same race together that you put in. That's how promoted it is.
Random (4 months ago)
It's just all of these black men wanting these white women. I hate it when those women call their men "my chocolate man" or my "black devil".. Whereas we black women get left out on that. It's hard to get a black man out there. It's hard to get a white man that's used to an actual thick woman.
Alisha Dennis (4 months ago)
Kevo !!!!!!You don't control us with your history nonsense.!!!!!! Black, Black, Black, Black, Black, men are not making happy healthy black fathers or husbands today, right here, right now for the most part & most are not qualified, skilled, educated, or Christian, or faith centered, who do traditional life with marriage & children, and on our same social or economic level or religious level. they don't qualify mostly & there's are shortage of black men based on real studies not gossip. we deserve the best life happiness , husbands & families. NOTHING less.... WAKE UP....... BLACK WOMEN WANT MARRIAGE, CHILDREN, COMMITMENT, LOYALTY, RESPECT, LOVE, DESIRE, ABUNDANCE, HOMES, GOOD SCHOOLS & GOOD JOBS, MEDICAL NOW, FOR OUR LIVES. BLACK MEN DONT ,AINT, OR CAINT OR WON'T. WHAT HAS A BLACK MAN DONE FOR BLACK WOMEN LATELY AND IN THE PAST. STARTNG WITH BLACK FATHERS TO HAVING A HUSBAND & PARTNER IN LIFE. THIS ISN'T ABOUT YOUR SILLY FEARS & MOBO JUMBO CRAP & IDEAS. IT'S ABOUT OUR LIVES, REALITY, HAPPINESS, HEALTH LOVE OF SELF & WELL BEING. WE OUR DESIRED, DATING, & GETTING MARRIED TO OUR CHOICES NOT YOURS. GET LOST WITH YOUR SELFISH BULL CRAP. TROLL SOME WHERE ELSE WITH THAT DUMB MESS...KEEP YOUR FEARS TO YOUR SELF. GOD SAID TO DON'T HAVE A SPIRIT OF FEAR ANY WAY. BELIEVE FOR THE BEST & PREPARE FOR IT * THE OPPORTUNITY WILL COME TO RECIEVE IT. THE BEST LOVE & LIFE OF WHAT EVER COLOR OR CULTURE GOD SENDS US. NOT ONE CHOICE ONE COLOR, THAT'S LIMITED RACIST & DUMB. TELL YOUR SELF THAT NOW WHEN YOU WANT TO COME UP WITH THIS AGAIN. BLACK WOMEN ARE GONE TO BETTER AND LARGET LOVE OPPORTUNITIES FOR GOOD. GOT IT.......
Kira Lunar (4 months ago)
I know that God is fine with interracial dating, so I am as well. You know who gives me the most respect as an African American woman? Asian men. They're good listeners, usually pretty genuine, caring, kind, smart, and usually, hard-working, as well.
JGmusic3000 (8 months ago)
Kevo A knowing this didn't stop anyone else from breeding out their race with non Black Women so we are way past that. You are bringing up old outdated views and pushing it onto Black Women when you should be telling those Bm over there your views not us because we not there anymore . We have already divested. I once had those fears you speak of but now I realized that I can not control other people because people are still going to do what they do regarless of you. I am getting tired of the hypocracy and double standards that are placed on Black Women and refuse to here anything about breading out race when you got the bm breading all Black people out wether we like it or not so it useless at this point to keep down that path. Move on because we have. They (bm) bread out their race ten times more and that gave me permisition( not that I need permision from anyone ) to finally state my preferance for White Men that I always had as a lil girl but soiety never allowed me to express. Now I believe that any Black Women that have a preference should shouting it out from the roof tops . ILOVE WHITE MEN ...And I don't care who knows. Ladies it is time to let our preferences be known. Its now or never. We only got one life and it is time to live ! Not struggle having doubts about"What if I would have leveled up and live the life I know I deserve hand have every right to. I am not going to let Rachet shonda and her fetish for her "Black Kangs" to ruin my chances to be with what ever Man I prefer to be around.
AlSharpton (8 months ago)
Many black women are not interested in WM, so to avoid rejection most will not approach — which is smart. If you are a fit BW, you will get attention from ALL RACES OF MEN! Another thing is when BW are fit, no other race of women are fucking with us. Black males know this, which is why they try and fatten you up. White men obsess over slim - fit - slim thick BW, this is a fact. I know because I am one and I piss white women off everyday...Hahaha. It is rare to see a fit BW, especially down south. So when a white man sees a fit BW, they go a bit crazy. Personally, I prefer asian men, so im glad white men do not approach me. Asian men are more humble imo.
Shawn Macdonald (1 month ago)
I am a,white guy, I prefer Mexican women. Of course you could look as good as your gonna look, I don't give a shit. It doesn't mean I find you unattractive, it's just the desire to approach isn't there.
Alisha Dennis (4 months ago)
+Adapt Reform yes they are...we told my relative that when she was dating her over weight boy freind who was scared of better men taking her. HE ate for 4 people every time he ate a meal. His mother said nothing to fat * getting fatter boy. HE helped fatten her uP. she moved on . still tryin to get that wait down. Even though she's pretty. she needs to loose 45 pounds. Her current biy freind works out. wants her to lose 30 ponds & work out with him. He eats strictly healthy foods. she sees now past boy freind was purposely fooling her with let's eat out to fatten her up. he kept her eatin in resturants too much. on purpose. wake up to dating sabatoged & influences that are bad for your body & slick, seemingly generous but have a evil purpose. a guy or girl can get fooled by this. Oh yeah my married Freind put on 70 pounds. States that she was smart enough to fatten up her husband too, so he can't go no where on her cause their both fat . she did this. Now Had the weight lost surgery since then.....it got dangerously out of control & health problems..
D Brace (4 months ago)
I'm also not interested in white men. Asian men, latino men, African men etc. Men of color are more appealing.
Cosmic Jewels (5 months ago)
I'm a petite, fit Black woman in the South too. I get horrid glances from white women and some actually say, "My God! You're tiny!" (Insert low-key envious tone there). White men do obsess over my body because I've got a very nice shape (slim thick). A white guy told me in highschool that my figure was, "perfect." He was looking at my behind and waist when he said it, lol. My body (face, as well as personality) has gotten the attention of white men since high school. Some after 20 years have told me about outfits I wore in school that they adored due to how they fit my body. I can't even remember what clothes I had back then. Obviously, they paid close attention. I have always had my own long hair, as long as hip length, and when I have cut it short, they STILL gawk because Halle Berry is one of the most beautiful women on the planet, biracial or NOT. I've worn the "Halle" cut myself. Long hair or short, if you have it, you have it. I, for one, am definitely interested in White men and all races of men who aren't Black. 😆 A lot of mammies/handmaidens may not be open to going out of the fence in order to graze in greener pastures, but I'm not in that "majority of Black women don't like white men" category. I'm a divested Black Woman, simply put. No more Blakistan shit for me.
Ashley ashley (8 months ago)
Robeltoable Absolutely Because Asian men are trying to assimilate To be a white man including dating white Women as where white men already are white men so they don’t need to try to be one.
brownladyjay 08 (8 months ago)
Wow… I’m very surprise about this comment section… It appears that a lot of people have a lot of things to say however have any of them dated a white guy??? I really would not be taking the advice of someone who has not even been on a date with someone outside the race… Just my opinion
Senait Ashenafi (8 months ago)
That's sad but true..Most black males do not take women or just life serious period..I see so many of them around where I live with NOTHING to show for their life but a whiskey bottle and back child support debt..Smfh.
brownladyjay 08 Thank you...like I mentioned under another comment, black folks have a low key way of telling BW that our value and worth is lower than low. Meanwhile, we are dating and marrying Men of other races!!! I say this also: even if some BW aren't attracted to non black men, at least they don't have to feel pressured to settle for a black one, simply because he is Black!
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
My best relationships have been with nonblack men except for the man I married.
JGmusic3000 (8 months ago)
White Men approached me and have very nice conversations . I show some interest but they don't seem agressive enough to ask for a number I guess.I been trying to figger it out.
+Deborrah Cooper your very gorgeous
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
The ones very USED to being around black people and dating black women are way more forward. I used to live in a 98% white suburb and everywhere I went the white guys were grinning and doing the eyebrow raise thing, or stopping in their tracks and staring or a bit overly effusive in their greeting. It was so cute and they were so awkward and unsure I started referring to them all as "Chip." They were just so damn CHIPPER. LOLOL! A couple of times when we were talking and I coudl see them swallowing and looking unsure about what to do all I would say is something along the lines "ladies wait to be asked" or "go for it" or something along those lines. Then they would step up and ask for a number, to take you to lunch or dinner, etc. I met some really interesting men that way. Nothing permanent jumped off but I had many enjoyable dates with great convo, fabulous wine, and was taken to places I would not normally go because I'd never heard of a couple of them. Back in the cut winery restaurants and stuff in the Livermore/Dublin/Brentwood/San Ramon area.
Ms. Und3rst00d (8 months ago)
Why do they continue to put these types of videos out? It's seems as if Some black women are BEGGING for caucasoid attention. If the white man aint making a move its because " he is just not into you....." Get over it and get your self esteem together . And whatever you do, black women do not be a white man's side chick. You know, . Something just to explore until he finds the right white woman to marry.
D Brace (4 months ago)
Thank you! 100% right.
Ms. Und3rst00d don't even pull it! More black women beggin 'and settlin' for black males! ✋
Tracey Smith (8 months ago)
Ms. Und3rst00d how about not be any man's side chick? Black people always try to push the idea that only White men have ill intent towards Black women and that melanin is always benevolent and honorable.
brownladyjay 08 (8 months ago)
Ms. Und3rst00d I’m sorry have you ever dated a white man??? Black men approach you a little bit more differently than white men do… For you to make this type of comment have you dated a white man; if not let me give you a few pointers
OJ Ivey (8 months ago)
The dating dynamics between black women and white or non-black men are interesting to say the least. White men know that black women are accustomed to a more aggressive approach style from black men. A lot of white guys are afraid to approach a black woman, as a "street dude" would, because he thinks an approach such as that, would come off as being "patronizing" or "condescending". However, if he approaches a black woman like a "gentleman", she might perceive him as "corny". So he takes the "safe" road and remains cordial and that is about it. What I find sort of comical is that most black women seem to believe, that if a white guy shows her the slightest courtesy, or attention, than she thinks he should automatically want to date, or marry her. More often than not, a white guy's job, social status, and career mobility are intimately tied to who he marries or dates...Those are the considerations most white men have to consider when choosing a mate, regardless of color.
Kira Lunar (4 months ago)
MxTooReal Well, let me revise what she said. Smart women of class with common sense would be repulsed by "street dudes". I have friends who were born into the roles of classy Black women. They've never gone for thugs because they're not interested in time wasters, like that. Leave that garbage in the street.
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
Your comment makes it seem like all black women are lower class. Many black women are upper middle class.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
Women of class do not go for "street dudes" so your point is retarded. Unless you want to date a hoodrat chick, why are you even thinking about what they respond to? SMDH. More important in dating than skin color is upbringing and socioeconomic class. A middle class suburban raised black woman will not have a damn thing in common with some "street dude" from the hood and will be repulsed.
OJ Ivey (8 months ago)
My apologies--It was not my intention to be insulting, or demeaning but I am a "Realist" before I am anything else. The reality is that interracial dating for black women, regardless of her "worth and value", is still a challenge.
OJ Ivey Notice...low key insult to the BW of our worth and value. Yet we are still dating and marrying WM and non black men! The end.
Jim Fitz (8 months ago)
Hi Deborah, thanks for taking the time to do the Video in response to my dilemma. Jim Fitz YouTube account belongs to my dear brother. My name is Vanessa. I used and am still using my brothers account to protect my identity and I am 100% black female! Thank you for highlighting how selfish I have been. I didn’t even consider in depth his position, clients and everything else you mentioned. Because I know that if he approached and we hit it off, nobody wouldn’t know that we are dating at all! I would and hope he would keep our relationship private and professional. I think you are 100% right in saying that he’s deciding whether I’m worth taking the risk for. He has his business, career and kids to think about. He has branches in USA and that’s all I’m going to say. I’m not going to approach him for no coffee at all! He must come to me. I have value. I’m a woman and I need a strong man who will step forward and man up in a professional way when negative situations arise. I really can’t cope with weak men. So, it looks like we are both going to loose this loving feeling and let it slide. I doubt he’ll ever approach me and I will never, ever approach him. I know feelings and as I’ve said before I know he has very serious feelings for me. If another male colleague comes near me and talks too long he gets red in the face and agitated. The male colleague who I speak to from time to time even joked and said it looks like xxxxx was getting jealous! I’ve been at the company 2 years, received a promotion to director 3 months ago and, now because of the department I’m in we have to see and meet each other regularly. I wanted to see if I could trust him and tested him 2 months ago by telling him the I’m really being picked on by some jealous white women in the company since I received the promotion. I told him everything they were doing to me in detail and named names. I asked him not to say a word to anyone and you know he never did. I know he never because the same women are still being nasty and carrying on. I’ve tested him with many scenarios where I needed to have faith in his trust. I even bitched about the Chairman big time and his inappropriate conduct in the office and my guy has never ever let me down!! I know I took a gamble talking to him about certain things but my gut told me He has my back and I wasn’t wrong. Yesterday when I arrived at the office, he didn’t even let me sit down properly before he came over discussing some random nonsense which he could have emailed me. He just pulled the chair out and sat beside me so comfortable. Again, this morning he emailed me at 09:05 when he never saw me asking me random rubbish about some stupid meeting which I already told him was being resolved yesterday. Today I was walking towards him and he stared me up and down and looked until Passed him and focused on my breasts which are big! I thought to myself, I know what’s running through your mind. Thanks for your excellent, brilliant video. I’ve learnt something but knowing me, I’m just going to keep my head down and forget him. Cause he could well have a girlfriend or something also to consider. I just don’t know. He acts single. If he does have a girlfriend and he’s behaving like this with me then, I wouldn’t want him! Thanks Deborah and keep up the excellent videos which I watch from my YouTube account.
BellaDonna (5 months ago)
Omg reading this was stressful. Just ask him out for a coffee or something. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know. There is nothing wrong with making a move to get things going. I asked my guy if he "wanted to hang out sometime" and it was the best decision I ever made.
brownladyjay 08 (8 months ago)
Jim Fitz thank you for coming forward with your question… However are you aware that white man would never approach you in the same manner as a black men...
YL Parker (8 months ago)
He should not have a problem unless he is married.
Lydia Moon (8 months ago)
I agree that that his reluctance comes from her being a subordinate at work, not from her being black. If I were her, I would get a job at a different company, ask him to write me a letter of reference, make sure I gave him my contact info under the guise of using him as a reference, and initiate a coffee date as a thank you. I don't know about her, but I've never had a problem finding a job. Finding a quality man is another story. That is much more difficult. I'd take a chance on Mr. CEO. As for that stupid, "Maybe I'm a fetish" question. That mess gets on my last nerve. I wish BW would stop listening to that nonsense! Do they even know what a fetish is? A person has a fetish when they can only get aroused by something that is generally non-sexual, like eating your toenails or licking your eyeballs or wearing a furry costume (No, I have no personal experience with any of that stuff, but I have read about it). If a man gets aroused by your hair, or your skin, or the shape of your body, or your smile, or your laugh, or the way you make him feel, that's just genuine lust and attraction! Why do BW allow these anti-IR relationship hooligans to gaslight them? If you find a man who treats you with love and respect, whose willing to provide for you and protect you, go for it! Regardless of color. Doing otherwise is stupid.
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
Lol. Doing all that for date? That may not even work out? Wtf? Such a round about way to get away from the fact that some white men simply think they are better than black women. Please move past those losers. Women should not be doing all that work. SHE is the prize. NOT HIM!
Ashley ashley (8 months ago)
Sophia N thank you
Palesa Floret (8 months ago)
Some white men.
Tealicious 587 (8 months ago)
Great topic! I think based on my observations white guys flirt so much differently than what black women are used to so for many black women they may not even realize that the white guy who raises his eyebrows when he walks past you is in fact flirting . I had at least three white guys I ran into in public walk past me and made eye contact and raised there eyebrows like hey! LOL! Funny and flirty!
Aisha Prince (4 months ago)
This is sooo true I had a guy flirt with me and I had no idea because he didn’t do it like a black man would he was smooth and attentive lol
Palesa Floret (8 months ago)
Black Amerian women really don't have to flirt, because of the way black American men approach. If black men see someone they find attractive there isn't no way you won't find out. But BW have to realize that not all men of other cultures are like this. BAMs have to realize that not all men are like this. Even intraracially. I've been approached by black non AA's and that was different as well. Belinda that was the story of my life with most AA black men. The African, Carib etc. men that approached were way more subtle. That's another reason. The way BAM approach can be off-putting.
Belinda Joy (8 months ago)
@Tealicious587, yours was the only comment for this video that I agree with. My mind is being blown by some of the comments expressed. Some are truly sad and pathetic, others totally disturbing, and still others naive. However your comment is valid. White men and Black women do indeed have a different way of flirting. On both sides, we miss the subtle signals that there is interest and attraction. As Black women we have developed a nasty habit of dropping our smile if we come across Black men that even remotely look like they are going to flirt with us, because we don't want to hear *"Yo baby, you need to smile more"* Yet a smile is what many White men see as a sign that we are open to them approaching us. With Black men it is like playing checkers, With White men it is like playing chess. I.E. we have to think outside the box, it isn't as straight forward.
Bubbly Bubbles (8 months ago)
I believe that most white men don't approach black women because most white men are not interested in black women. Black women have a lot of negative stereotypes on us and a lot of white and non black men are probably afraid of dating black women because of that. Most White guys also feel that most black women aren't interested in them.
maggie Mwash (1 month ago)
You are judging black women in general but we are different
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
Also date European men. For the life of me, I dont understand why more black women in America only stick to American white men. They are largely a waste of time. Euro men are much more forward. And frankly, much more interesting and masculine. Just vet well, period. Wherever he is from. But please include foreign men since you want to get many dates under your belt and who has time for anxiety Larry all day?
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
Yes. Most arent interested in black women. This is correct. It's more than likely due to conditioning. Now here is the fun part. Black women make up less than 10% of the society. Cut 6% off for those that are interested in IRR. And all could be partnered up many times over even with a small percentage of white men. Numbers. That's all that matters.
xZANZIBARZx (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper this is true, about some white men after getting old and more financially established (thus societal and family obligations won't hold as heavy burden on his love life as opposed to a younger man). These certain white men typically have a midlife crisis, or they come out of the closet, or as you said they marry an Asian or black woman or whatever THEY always wanted. After they are established. However, I reiterate, please make sure he isn't just fetishizing you . And yes the woman has to do 50% of the work if she wants equality in relationships. Men aren't the slobbering fools our daddies and granddadies were. You can't have your cakes and eat it too. A lot of young dudes who aren't cucked are busy creating wealth and success. I was told by a wise man: "Girls are okay, girlfriends are not. At your age (I was 20 but it still applies), especially they interfere with your personal development." I have had a pleasant experience living by this axiom. I'm always nice and polite, but ill be damned before I bend over backwards. Until I'm ready, I'm not gonna agree to marriage. If she somehow she magically comes along, and it's meant to be, I would be open and receptive to her. Then, after some time, we both would decide to continue developing our relationship or if it has ran its natural course. Only marriages are designed to last, relationships are still tentative time to assess your potential mate Not saying this out of bitterness or anything (my biggest fear is turning into a bitter old man so...), I'm just expressing my view and experience in life I have seen as an old millennial. So yes, it's harder for ALL women and for black women just being a lower percentage of the pop to choose a mate from (if she wants a BM). I've seen way too much weird stuff, so it's believable. Thanks for responding without condescension or name calling. This is how we have conversations on "sensitive" issues.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
Untrue. They have older children who are NOT baggage, they re adults or damn near. And they have MORE to offer because they have more money, settled in their careers, calm and know their value and place in society, have less to no need to prove themselves because they're already established. It's amusing to me the misinformation a group of you are spreading. I think you are black men with a woman's profile coming into a black woman's conversation throwing shade. Cause after all BM cannot STAND that some pussy somewhere in the black community won't be theirs.
Valerie Smith (8 months ago)
Good advice Deborrah, thank you.
Dianne Young (8 months ago)
You know the man may not be all that into her. She thinks he is but she may be very mistaken. I agree that she should test the situation however she much be prepared for her overture to fall flat. If it does then it is time to move on.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
Yup, you never lose anything by finding out the real deal.
S Williams (8 months ago)
Dianne Young That's what I was thinking too while listening to the situation.
ruff edges (8 months ago)
This is definitely a topic that I deal with at my job. I’m a BW and I noticed a few months back that my supervisor a WM would hit on me for months. At the time he didn’t mention his personal life. I had to do some digging on my own and find out from a co worker buddy is married. So ofcourse I left him alone. He still tries to talk but I keep things professional. The only issue I have now is that he gets mad when I talk to other men that are single. So I don’t know if he has feelings or not. I just know it’s uncomfortable 😣 to be around him sometimes. I’m friendly to all staff. However, I hate when he acts moody like he’s a grown azz man with a wife. There are other guys but at this point I am trying to meet people outside of work.
Palesa Floret (8 months ago)
That's why when at a job always listen to coworkers around you who have been there a long time than you. They knew whose married, but trying to pick up girls. Believe me they will spill that tea
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
Well when it is a direct supervisor that is an All Points Hell to the No No. Never ever do that! Peers is one thing, or even a manager in a different division where you work is another thing. But your DIRECT supervisor? All the nopes ever.
Palesa Floret (8 months ago)
Yes, be careful with men at work regardless of race. Men flirt to pass the time or break up the monotony of the day.
callalilly1988 (8 months ago)
Since high school I've had my share of white boys who stare and do nothing. It was cute in high school but if a guy of any color is afraid to approach me now then I can't help but think he is not the man for me. I need someone who is bold, can act with conviction and stand on the strength of those convictions. That goes for all areas of his life. If there is no logical reason why he shouldn't approach me, like this work scenario, then he better have the balls to say something. I'm happy to show keen interest once he's made that 1st move but the idea of him not having the balls to approach really turns me off. I like being pursued.
V M (8 months ago)
I love white men. And they love me :)
Fiction Factory (8 months ago)
We do. Hot chocolate is the way to go.
V M Bloop! Lol
S Williams (8 months ago)
Thank you Deborrah for another great video! This is an interesting topic. It seems like the one's in my area (NC) break their necks to look away from me or pretend they are on their phone to avoid looking my way. Lately a lot of them have been in cahoots with bm with picking and making fun of black women. They may not be as vulgar and out loud about it, but they are right beside them laughing along and joining in on the "fun." When I'm just walking by them I see them saying something to each other under their breath and when I walk by they all bust out laughing (both wm and bm together). I feel like I used to be open to dating white men because I found them attractive, but as I get older, those feelings are dwindling. The only time I get male attention is from aggressive men, homeless men or men who make fun of my looks, but other than that I'm pretty invisible to them.
TheLovelylove (7 months ago)
Sounds like me.Cant get a quality man to save my life.Im a pretty lowkey girl,cute but no stunner.Have a job,own my car,no kids.Like a strong silent type.I am not shy,just selective with who I give my time too,I hate small talk.But if the guy isnt some dominant who thinks Im a submissive(Im not) just looking for a side piece until he is back on good terms with his wife or a complete abusive asshole who thinks he can talk down to me because Im not a baddie and should be grateful for any attention that comes my way,they're not interested,lol.
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
Black women. Please avoid white men with black male friends at all costs. Seriously. It is extremely rare that that black or even mixed/Hispanic male isnt bashing black women to him. Trust me. And white men wont call them out because of a warped selective fear of seeming racist. Also, because it's weird for men to bash their own, specifically and considering all of black womens strange loyalty to black males, all these factors make it seem true! Just avoid white males that have black male friends. If you can. They are almost always bashing black women to them.
S Williams (8 months ago)
Texas RN Agreed!
Sophia N Black men take the cake and pie on humiliating and abusing BW!
S Williams (8 months ago)
Amal Somali It's definitely on my list of places to travel :)
And i remember in elementary and middle school being turned down simply BECAUSE i was black. Shit cut DEEP but over time i said OH WELL life goes on😎
Aeri cah (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper please tell us your theory Mrs. Cooper!!! 🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼
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Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
Plus, an ADULT should have explained to you the issue of attraction. Even the mist handsome, or most beautiful woman in one person's eyes won't be viewed that way by everyone! Just like people choose pancakes over waffles, scrambled eggs over omelettes, Fords over GMC, Honda's over Toyota's, dresses over pants, bowling over tennis. Neither choice is bad or wrong, hust different. And there never should have been one second where you felt badly about yourself based on a random teenage boy's dick. SMDH.
Reerei Dia (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper can’t wait to hear it
lisajohnson joseph (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper please tell
Shittt my mom married my father(they adopted me into the family and she had 3 boys when they met) and he was a SUCESSFUL chemical engineer and loveddd my moms attitude lol and YES he was a "white boy"😁😁😁😁😅😊😊 r.i.p i miss him a lot😥😓. Ive found in my past experience they only come with that "ive never been with a black girl" bs🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Judah Yisrael (7 months ago)
Shayla Johnson Yes another bedwench under their belt. You are smart.
Deborrah Cooper i feel they sometimes use that line ms.cooper just to get into ANOTHER black girls pants smdh🙄
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
Thats ok. Just tell them that shit is inappropriate. They are being honest and sharing. But men need to understand when they need to STFU.
Insatiable is My name (8 months ago)
Me as a Man I love your channel but 4 Me when it comes 2 dating I might but Relationships I don't trust no Woman I'm a Black Man and I have a White Girl we Friends but I keep telling her I don't want a Relationship we hang out alot she tries 2 give me Money but I don't take Money from women her Mistake is one of them she tries 2 change me she says I'm stuck in my Ways and I am plus I like the Single Life anyway and No I'm not out here Screwing every woman I see because Everything looks Good isn't always Good
Ms. Und3rst00d (8 months ago)
Insatiable is My name Yep, seems to me she is looking for a human Dildo.
Dianne Young (8 months ago)
Why is she wasting her time with you?
Insatiable is My name (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper I do enjoy I was just saying
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
Well never mind all that. Just enjoy the channel.
Miss desire Independance (8 months ago)
Many white men haven't been socialize around black people so they are reluctant to approach black women. I had a white guy who liked me when I was attending college and he would stare and smile or talk to me in a group setting but never asked me out. He was kind of immature so it didn't go anywhere.
Shawn Macdonald (1 month ago)
I love the black mans fragile ego. Oh you love to use the term white boy, fetish, bedwench bullshit when it fits your ideals. It's you lusting after white women, it's not a fetish right? Oh what bullshit thing you gonna say next to keep your fragile ego going, all black men know how to fight, lol.
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
BLACK KING 77% out of wedlock black children. White men are our least concern when it comes to be being fetishized
Judah Yisrael (7 months ago)
Miss desire Independance Majority of white boys look at black women as a bedwench lustful fetish to satisfy his sexual appetite. I'm just keeping it real with you.
Vintage Vanity (8 months ago)
Thanks for having this conversation Deborrah! Black women need to do what is best for them. I am in an interracial relationship and get more grief from other Black people than Whites. I am Caribbean and see people for character not color. Black women can be happy with other races of men. They do find us beautiful. I can’t live my life for my ancestors and a community that does NOT accept you if you do not fit into their definition of a Black person. I love Black people but we have got to do better. What I don’t understand is the backlash against BW/WM relationships now but when Black men were marrying out all these years and excluding us from everything that was ok though??
John Jones (1 month ago)
Good for you, wish you nothing but happiness
John Jones (1 month ago)
I have thought this for years ,I heard the twins from sister sister speak about this. One of them is married to a white man and she said they get more hate and racism from blacks people... Yet white women and black men have dated for years
T M (8 months ago)
As far the situation in the story, who the heck knows why that individual man is not approaching that individual woman. The only way to have even a chance at finding out why, and it’s not a guarantee since he could lie, would be to ask him. Not saying I’d recommend that.
WTM wats (8 months ago)
He could be in a relationship that she knows absolutely nothing about. This is the same thing happening to me at work. However, I found out that he has a girlfriend in another city. I heard him mention it to someone else in conversation, then I chimed in to get details...lol. I can still tell that he's highly interested and can barely contain himself when I'm around, but he's already in a relationship. Me, I'm not pressing the issue with him, because what goes around comes around.
WTM wats (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper "break free and get local talent" ...gotta love you for these little phrases😂😂. I guess I should show some interest.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
Long distance relationshps never work. He is about to break free of that and get local talent. That is always what inevitably happens in long distance affairs. Either one has to move to where the other lives, OR you break up because of loneliness, horniness, or met someone they like better who is more geographically desirable. Sometimes all three.
Sheri Townsend (8 months ago)
The UK is much more tolerant in IRR.   The advice you gave was good, because it was geared  to an 'on the job' situation,  regardless of race.
T M (8 months ago)
Second answer, is tied to the first answer. Due to how racist the vast majority of white Americans are towards black people, they have created a nation with very limited places that are truly racially integrated. For instance, where I grew up there was the white side of town and the black side of town, the black side of the beach and the white side of the beach, black clubs and white clubs, etc. This lack of cross racial social connections makes it difficult for even the very few non racist white people to have lots of social interactions with black people which could overcome social awkwardness. I know these aren’t the reading the minds of white dudes answers or the blaming some segment of the black population answers, but given human nature and dating patterns, it’s obvious to me that white peoples’racist feelings towards black people as well as the lack of truly integrated spaces in American society are imo by far the greatest impediments to wm approaching bw.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
You musta missed the part where they are in London (England) and he is French. Nothing about this letter has anything to do with America. Except me.
Shandra9000mail (8 months ago)
"Jim" sounds fishy to me. I know Deborah this person ain't fooling nobody.
T M (8 months ago)
I think possible two answers. First answer a lot of white people are racist. This aversion to black people that an extremely large percentage of white people possess makes relationships with black people very unappealing to the vast majority of white people. For instance, the loser bm who brag about white women wanting them, are delusional. There are well over 50million married white women in American, yet only 300,000 to 350,000 are married to bm. That’s .7% of married white women are married to black men. It’s nothing.
Noéllè (8 months ago)
Oooh I Love this topic ❤️ Ms. Deb is the BEST! 🤗
Cherryblos9 (8 months ago)
It sucks. But she might have to approach first. Bw/Wm is not as common as the opposite, which means they never assume that the other is attracted to them. The whole situation seems delicate too. Workplace relationships can be pretty toxic...
Cherryblos9 (8 months ago)
1. A lot of bw openly talk about them not being as desirable as bm. They'll say that they don't do anything for them (not dark enough, not manly enough, etc.). 2. The media is very powerful (you can resist it though), BUT people are sheep. If it shows them that a certain phenotype is attractive and/or the standard of beauty, men of all races are going to chase that woman. 3. White men, who are interested, fear being rejected by us, and their friends and family members. Getting with us is one thing. Dealing with others is another. We're not as exceptable as other races, just cold facts (I don't care though, I still like Asian men). With that being said, there are a growing number of bw/wm couples (my parents saw this on cruises and saw it in Kentucky mostly). The marriages last longer (than any other pairing), and usually marry at a good social standing. A lot of these White men don't care about these issues, and pursue their bw. And tbh, these reasons are things that keep White and Asian men from pursuing bw. Edit: Oof, I thought the story was American based. Meh, still generally applies.
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
Vintage Vanity white men MAKE society. They wont date bW because they simply don't want to. African women are another story.
Dark Maiden (8 months ago)
Spot on 💯
Vintage Vanity (8 months ago)
Cherryblos9 - You are right about this. Most WM are not willing to take the social risks for marrying BW. They may be attracted but will not follow through bc of societal pressures and or repercussions.
Nappystorm (8 months ago)
Personally, I wouldn't get into a relationship with a co-worker, let alone a boss. I've known women to date bosses and it rarely ends well for the woman. If it's that serious, I would find a comparable job eleswhere and then approach.
Chef Bridgette Coleman (8 months ago)
I agree.But my bf who is white would always flirt With me at work.Has to be a white man that is open-minded. He would tell me he liked me.I would say no because of his age. One day I said well take me to luch. Lol I was joking but i was serious. Well 8 months later were living together in Galveston,tx
Kez D. Hanzz (8 months ago)
I like white guys too. A lot of them are scared to approach, because not many black women date out unfortunately
Omie Dove (8 months ago)
I'm white and, from my experience dating white guys, they (the quality ones) never approach directly. Everything is more indirect and subtle. I think showing interest this way is more respectful because it doesn't make the woman feel uneasy; it gives her time to feel comfortable, and both people can slowly gravitate toward each other over time. Eventually, you'll find you have enough in common which will give reasons to spend more time together, and once a friendship is established, maybe he can offer some sincere compliments or give some small gifts, eventually leading to more time together. I think if the guy just comes right at you, it's kind of offensive since he's not taking into consideration your comfort, only what he wants at that moment. If I want to show interest in a white guy, I'll usually make a point to "need" him more by asking him for help with something, even something simple, which gives him permission to be around me and to spend time alone with me, inviting him into my personal space. This is also a good opportunity to observe his skills and to decide if he will be suitable or not. For instance, I like to see how a man handles a frustrating situation, to make sure that he's the type that will remain calm and level-headed, working out a problem through objective reasoning, rather than through force. Well, women are the ones who hold the power of sexual selection; I think it's appropriate for the potential mate to tread carefully and to prove himself a capable partner since the woman is the one who could become pregnant. The woman has a lot more at stake. I've never heard a white guy say he wouldn't date a black woman, not since like the early 1990's (when it was more taboo, at least out here in the country.) I wouldn't recommend worrying about skin color; I would recommend focusing on asking the man to display his skills for you so you can gather information about him and be better equipped to make a decision. I wouldn't call it "scared to approach." I'd say it's more accurate to say they, "respect your autonomy." Maybe make sure your assessment of the particular guy is correct and not jump to a negative assumption. I mean if the guy is like 20, and has never been with a woman before, maybe he really is scared to approach, but the frontal lobe is fully formed at age 25, so beyond that age, maybe he has a reason to behave that way, and maybe he's trying to be a gentleman. I'd say, if you like him a lot, go for it! ;)
Tyetiana Ford (8 months ago)
eprahs I know they mess it up for other black women😒their black kangs are at the bottom of society.
eprahs (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper but black women are famous for screaming to the heavens and above about how they Only day black men. I hear so many black women say this, and other races of men hear that also. So of course they would hesitate.
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
More would if white and other non-black men made their interest known.
brit llove (8 months ago)
I got tired of being called "masculine" because of my height by "them" ...or ugly because my hair is natural and im dark skin.....That kind of abuse from your own kind takes a toll on you after awhile..That being said,I date tf OUTTTTTT and have never felt the relief of stress so quick with a decision.
sockit 2ya (5 days ago)
brit llove no one can pay me to deal with another black guy,,,,,,lol.............nope,,,i had a black guy roll up on me at a traffic light called me ugly & a bitch b/c i was driving too slow for him.......mind u, n the state of south carolina slow traffic always has to keep right & god as my witness i was just cruising to the right minding my business & here that fool come acting a plump fool,,,,,,,i just hope & pray my son doesn't become a statistic
Aquarian Beauty (1 month ago)
I'm a tall girl myself and I love it, what's funny is lately the shorter guys seem to be more guts 😂
Tara Phillips (8 months ago)
MsVJ lol a bag Doritos the broke bm always the first to put u down. ..
Omie Dove (8 months ago)
I've been called a man by a guy before. Some people just look for any point to try to attack you on because they're abusive people (and it can be absolutely ANYTHING.) I've had to tell my daughter this plenty of times. None of the comments have to do with you or the way you look; it's only a reflection of the person making the statements. Those people have to wake up to themselves every day and sleep with themselves at night. Then, during the day, they make horrific senseless noises.. and that's how their one and only life is spent. My daughter is tall also, and a muscular powerlifter, I told her it's better to be with a stronger man that can appreciate her. If you come across as strong and stable, yes, it can be very intimidating because it shows that you have very high standards and it's something to be proud of. My daughter did end up marrying a great guy because she didn't compromise her own values for the sake of getting along with someone who couldn't appreciate her values. I'm very proud of her for being unyielding. I'm not the best or worst in the beauty department, but I've been picked apart from top to bottom by people. And yes, maybe they're right, maybe I could improve my looks in some way (everyone has their own opinion on how to best achieve that), but them doing that is rude, and it's my decision to improve my looks or to not improve them because it's my body to do with what I want. If I choose to look like crap, I will do that, and if I want to dress up and look fancy, I'll do that, too. And it's not just by "mean-spirited" people either. The feminists who tell you you shouldn't wear makeup, in what they feel is you best interest, are doing it to, and it's still rude. Your body = your decision... period.
Reerei Dia (8 months ago)
Good for U
cub (8 months ago)
b/c they're afraid of black men = answer for everything, not just this
Shawn Macdonald (1 month ago)
I love the fragile egos of black men. Oh you brag about your dick size, how being black, apparently means you can fight like Bruce lee. If you enter a room, everyone is just so intimidated. Of course if any of this bullshit were true, you wouldn't have to keep constantly bringing it up. It's fucking pathetic, your own women seem to be sick of it, lol.
Breanna Nouveaux (7 months ago)
The same black males dating their white sisters?? GTFOHWTBS!
Reerei Dia (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper 😂😂
Tyetiana Ford (8 months ago)
Deborrah Cooper 😂😂
Deborrah Cooper (8 months ago)
In a relationship between a white/non-black man and a black woman the black male is a non muthafuckin factor.

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