White males often express their desire to meet, socialize and date black women they keenly admire. Though the woman he is interested in can tell he wants to ask her out, for some reason many white and other non-black males, hesitate and usually miss out by being passive.
Most adults spend far more time every week at work than we do at home, and as a result, on the job romances are common. However, in a professional setting there may be some very real issues for a manager interested in dating an employee of any race to be concerned about, and we explore them here.
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White men are psychotic and beyond weird. In order to date them you have to be crazy as hell. Not against WM BW relationships because I don't even date BW I'm just saying. White men ... ALL of them... are crazy AF.
This is stupid like really. My girlfriend is a southern getto black woman and I’m a northern semi country white man and nah I wasn’t scared Black woman are just woman. No difference I went about it the same way as I always did before. I love her more then anything.
Really? Have you been in the chat with us Sucy? There are quite a few guys who come through who are mannerly and respectful, and everyone enjoys interacting with them. Just cause you are a male doesn't mean you aren't welcome to participate. You're right though about the troll population. lol
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White males don't go up to black women because they are scared of looking dumb...if you are black and interested in white males, look less intimidating...yes intimidating, men like the feeling of being in power and being able to protect you. Don't be too sassy because that shit could get annoying...black women are loud(no offense), look more feminine. And white males don't go up to black women because we kinda don't wanna give up white women...just the thought of a black thug with a white woman makes us feel angry(same with white thugs and latino thugs)...we want too see respect towards our women
+Deborrah Cooper I'm interested in learning as much as I can about what Black men and women are subjected to on a daily basis. I am aware of the white privilege I have and how it benefits me in American society, unfortunately. I believe I've only barely scratched the surface in learning about the struggles of Black men/women. What are some ways I can better learn about your daily struggles as a Black woman, despite never truly being able to understand what it feels like? Great video by the way!
Jaka, I don't know who raised you, but whoever it was, did a piss poor job. You are very nearly if not the epitome of an ignorant uneducated white male. I'm a 22-year-old white male who grew up sheltered, by my fathers doing, in a state comprised of 98% white people and I've NEVER said or thought the things you just did.
Don't start saying shit about what white males do or don't do regarding talking to Black women and why, because you sure don't speak for me. Intimidating?? First off, Black women are no more "intimidating" than an attractive woman of any other race you'd see. Second, that word doesn't apply at all so mentioning that it's effect on a man's idea to have to always protect a woman is so archaic and irrelevant.
Who the fuck even says "sassy" anyway? I don't get why so many people (mainly white) slam Black women for being bluntly outspoken about something. Personally, if you've got something to say regarding a comment or action of mine or another person, being straight up gets your point across clearly. You clearly haven't seen or met many Black women if you're telling them to look more feminine (yet another thankfully dying term) -_- Hah, white women want the whole dating process to be implicitly based where it seems you're supposed to read her mind about how she feels about you. It's so damn confusing and not hard to screw up.
Lastly, due to your first mention of a Black man being that he is a "thug" and not simply a man tells a lot about what you think..as if nothing else before that implied otherwise. Dude, you shoulda gotten this through your clearly thick skull a long time ago, but here, I'll spell it out for you...WOMEN ARE NOT YOUR POSSESSIONS. YOU DON'T OWN THEM, regardless of the amount of melanin that's in their skin.
You know how many white men respect me because I'm loud and no nonsense? IDK where your definition of femininity comes from, but feminine energy has no bound definition. Its definately present enough to get the level of attention I receive.
+Deborrah Cooper well I don't agree with abortions only in certain circumstances, but I do know what you are saying, this is the reason women need to get on birth control to prevent his archaic thinking from reproducing.
I always been attracted to white men since I was a younger teen, they just never seem to be interested or feel too intimidated to approach, there are loads of white guys in the gym that stare at me but never seem to smile or come up to me. Kinda disappointing, they literally have no idea that I got mad love for them 😂😍 lol
Deborrah Cooper thanks for the advice. If he asks me to lunch then I’ll go. I think he may be in a relationship though, because we’ve flirted off and on for a few years and are friends but I’ll catch him staring at me sometimes and I’ll just smile and wave but he has never made a move.
Hmmmm. He was scared. The other people serve as a buffer. Plus he may have been confused or felt some kinda way about you asking him out first, OR dating on the job period. Going as a group eradicates opportunities for office speculation and gossip. You shouldn't have declined but instead said "whatever makes you feel at ease."
If God blessed me with a real gentleman, humble, honest, royal, understanding, handworking and a white one I would not let that chance pass me because I believe love is not on the colour but in the heart😍😍
Long time ago I pursued black women as a white man.
Well, I pursued women lol....some just happened to be black.
Anyways I never had a problem getting a date with a black woman; one just needs to be genuine and respectfully ask the beautiful woman out like a man and drop the sheepish BS.
Guts guys, find them.
Eventually I began to frequently date a vibrant black woman in college. Sadly the issues that developed were not between us. It was her family. Yes, it got to the point of meeting the folks.
That didn't go well at all.
Within ten minutes at her folks place one of her brothers knocked me the F out....sucker punch from behind. Never saw it coming. Woke up on their couch a bit later to a house full of people screaming at each other and a mother terrified "the cracker on the couch" (yes, I remember clearly this is a quote and yes please laugh your asses off) was going to press charges....I didn't but I did leave.
No, I did not break up with her but it got worse, not better over the following 2 months.
The nightmare that followed is a long story so I'll just provide a list of what her father and brothers decided to do.
1. They threw a brick through my apartment sliding door window; not once but four times. My guess is each brother wanted to have a shot. Not cheap folks, not cheap.
2. Prank calls at all hours with death threats. Her dad and brothers took turns doing this crap.
3. Roadkill was mailed to me. The smell was...um...intense.
4. Roadkill mailed to my parents. THEY called the police for they had no idea wtf was going on. No, I did not tell them what was up for I didnt want to be the dude sending my gf's family to jail.
5. They almost got me fired from my job at the time with false claims of drug use on the job. Thank goodness I do not use drugs and could pass a drug test.
6. I was jumped and beaten unconscious as I was walking to my apartment from the parking lot. Once again I never saw it coming. Woke up in the hospital with five broken ribs, a broken collar bone, broken nose, an eye was swollen shut and I had a massive headache. Had to talk to the police then for they were waiting for me to wake up, which was good for....
7. While I was out cold her brothers destroyed my car; it was a black 1994 Jaguar XJ Series that I had saved up for years to get the mad cash to buy.
I agreed to drop the charges if they paid for ALL damages and my medical bills. Don't know how they managed it but they found the money real quick.
Needless to say, we broke up. Too much BS and she was convinced her brothers were going to end up killing me.
I still wonder how she is doing all these years later though. She's the "one that got away".
I know I'm not free of bigotry. We are all the products of the world and culture we were raised. Regardless...
Hate should not be a family value for anyone.
Peace to all.
P.S. - Wherever you are Lilly, I will remember that night under the full moon talking about our dreams till the day I die.
😂 woah, man. The first punch should have been enough to know what was up. You've had the rare look into what we face when trying to do anything you y'all. The only exception is they let you live, that doesn't usually happen on our end. Good luck in figuring things out.
+Deborrah Cooperthanks much. Obviously it still stings me decades later. I was contemplating proposing so...yeah...
...but we all get harsh life lessons.
We have to make lemonade out of all those lemons so we do not get sour.
Most white men I meet in person aren't interested buy I've met 6 that have talked to me in person the other 4 I met online dating for interracial dating I wish more white guys would approach me in person so I can flirt withe them although I am married to a white man and my ex husband was white to white men are gorgeous I love pale skin, blonde hair and blue eyes or brown or black hair with green eyes
Just make the first move. He maybe shy but if that's your picture I guarantee he will be interested because you look beautiful to me and I'm a white guy. Beyond that its all about the personality and whether the two of you mesh.
I am a white man married to a GORGEOUS ebony queen. I never thought I would date outside my race but after meeting her, I had no idea what I was missing. She has the natural hair too which I love. But I also like weaves and extensions. It's TRUE what they say, once you go black, you never go back (at least in my situation). I have nothing against white women but it makes no sense how black women get so much hate when they are just as beautiful as any other race of women. What's even more disheartening is a lot of the hate black women get is from their own men. I have also seen a lot of comments from black men hating on the sistas for dating outside their race but last I checked, its 2019 and ALL women are free to do what they want. I don't see a lot of hate coming from white men when white women date outside their race. It just seems hypocritical hearing black men hate on their women for dating outside their race because historically, everyone knows that black men date outside their race more than any other group of people. I say fuck the haters and if you are a white man, I think you should not box yourself in to one group of people because you can be missing something very special. Same goes for black women. There are a lot of white men who are "secretly" attracted to black women because we have not gotten past the taboo in society of white men dating black women. But I'm starting to see a trend of it becoming more acceptable and it is very encouraging to see. Love has no color
+Candyce Evette He won't cause he is scared. Just flirt with him. Wave at him, smile brightly. Ask how his day is going. Tell him you hoped he was working so you could see his handsome face or beautiful smile or whatever you want to say. He may be shocked so don't expect an immediate response. He will have to get himself together and think about what just happened and what it means. So the NEXT time you are in the store he may ask for your number or something. But I'm sure he will be dumbstruck when you flirt and not know WTF to say! lolol
+Aquarian BeautyDon't listen to what she is talking about. You gotta remember a lot of white women are very insecure and their only sense of worth comes from being presented as the #1 source of beauty and womanhood by white males. So when white males look at women who are non-white (women who these ladies were trained to believe are less than they), and choose said women, and exclaim over said women of color's beauty, the white girls feel betrayed and anxious. That is why they feel the need to come onto a channel where some white men's preferences for brown is being examined and throw shade.
Can the people with negative rude comments stop with all the disrespectful stuff torwds us dark Africans American wemon? because we have feelings as well as you do ! Well the people with positive nice comments thank you for being very mature i like people with positive comments you know !
Nobody was talking about dark black women. The conversation is black women vs white males period. If your self esteem is so low you concern yourself with and feel bad about what complete strangers on the internet say, not directed at you personally at all, then you have problems and need therapy. Seriously.
I'm a young 20yr old dark skinned woman and i am interested in white men please don't take this the wrong way but if i were to date a white man i would like for him to treat me with respect care for me protect me defend me i will do the same for him to i will treat him with respect protect him defend him care for him my parents are not racist they are ok with black and white 💑 they won't judge us they will be happy for us. I also would love to get married and adopted kids that is my comment to you all!
Your problem is you identify not as a woman, not as a black woman, but as a "dark skinned" woman. You define yourself primarily by your skin tone which is some ole slave shit. Get off that mentality. You are a woman. Period. Men will love you because you are a woman and they are attracted to you. Period. That attraction goes deeper than your "dark skinned" and includes your personality, sense of humor, intellect, ability to communicate with him, sense of fun and adventure, sexual compatibility, etc. Please expand your horizons when it comes to who you are. This is very disturbing.
Why are so many white men pssys when it comes to ADULT CHILDREN who are LAZY ASSES? THIS GUY NEVER SAYS "NO" His daughter met me one day and asked him to ask me if I would babysit her 5 children while she did a girls night the next day! He has 3 daughters and 4 sons...I kid you not ALL of them are worthless! Nothing like their Dad....he is a hard worker and they are work less😂 all the daughters have multiple baby daddies amd they get pregnant everytime a sibling says they have a child on the way! I think they are competing for his attention! He said I have to like the children and that pretty much squashed the fun at that point! Different Views and Values...
I definitely meet white men who seem interested iall the time😳but they seem more embarrassed because they are uncomfortable around other "white men & women" watching....
😊They love my vibe and we always begin talking about the Outdoors, Fishing, boating, off road biking, hiking, and more.... they love my trucks too😂 Always enjoy food around the globe and families....but I DO NOT LIKE Guys who allow their adult children to lay around, hands always out and the enabling their adult children who have a drug problem is a Major NO from me....
I'm a 28 year old white man who's totally open to dating a back woman, but I have to admit I would fear what her friends and family would think. If she's from an area with greater diversity it probably wouldn't be much of an issue. If she's from a predominantly black community, I fear that her family/friends would forever judge me based on my whiteness for the rest of my life and I'd never be given a "fair shake". I know it's a somewhat unreasonable fear because love conquers all, etc., but hey there it is. The irony is it's probably the same thing black people who want to date a white person worry about in the modern era. The sad truth is, many whites have the idea that "black people hate me" drilled into their head by the media the same way black people have the idea that "white people hate me" ingrained into them. It's that racial divide agenda being spread by the MSM.
I'm 25, a white man. I find black women gorgeous and its sickening how not just black men, but other men will call them unattractive. I am guilty of not being brave enough to fight the social stigma. I have been told I have a fetish and I never understood why people throw that card. We're all human beings and I shouldn't need someone to tell me that my attraction preferences are bullshit.
There are also social consequences we are all afraid of committing. I dated a hispanic woman in high school and I felt the racial tension from her father and mother, it made me uncomfortable. I find darker skin sexy and you shouldn't feel ashamed of it.
Hey razzy1312 in love matters colour does not matter neither what people say or think about you guys. If you meet a girl and both of you fall inlove and maybe you see you got a future with her then marry her your family will eventually accept her with time same case to the girls family. Learn to follow your heart and not what people will say OK.
My sister's white husband of two decades caught hell in the beginning... They got pregnant before marriage.... They were teens.... And the fact that he was white... My mother more than my father had an issue with it... Then after a while he became like family. I didn't like him at first either.... But it was bc he was rude asf... Lol... Not bc he was white... But we are actually cool asf now. He's a great dad to say the least.
White men are so tired of being called racist because most of us are not. Society has created this hatred for everything white that most white men just stay away anymore. I have no problem with people dating whoever they want. I myself find beautiful women in all races and when I was single I would not have had a problem dating a women of any race. Actually I had a crush on a beautiful black women but what I really loved about her was here pleasant personality but unfortunately I was too shy to express myself to her but I know she knew how I felt when I smiled at her and she would smile back. Nothing ever happened just the occasional glance and smile. I have no problem with people wanting to stay within their own ethic group if that is where they feel comfortable. As a white man who was previously in the military I was able to experience working with people of all races and find that most of us have the same wants and desires but how we go about it is different and its mostly because of the way we were raised. White guys just tend to be more shy but we can make good partners, husbands and fathers if given a chance. We tend not to make the first step but once we feel comfortable with the person were with then that is when our personality comes out. I have no problem with a women letting a man know she is interested regardless of race because once that initial awkwardness is gone you will be surprised how nice white men can be.
I've met some really good friends, male friends, who happen to have to been white... Some of them I crushed on secretly. One got away and lord... Looking back now I wish I would have gotten to know him better.
Yea, wish this was easier for real. Saw a fine woman at the convenience store the other day but got turned off when she started talking ugly and mean to her child. I've seen this at least 6 times before. In public, make eye contact, realize they have a kid in tow (yea fine) and they immediately realize that kid is a burden and in most cases a deal breaker for most men and start being nasty towards them. THAT behavior doesn't help, ladies. It says things about you.
My god is real.i have seen.what god has done for me. My late mother and i attented church. She told me to put my trust in god. And i am.not saying everyone believes in god. But having a faith has been my strength and a postitive attitude. Life has its up and down. But i cannot give up i have to encourage my family to trust in the lord. Dont let the devil lead you down the wrong path. God shines his light and nothing will let me loose my way. Peace perfect peace in this world.♥️👍
BW, some of you sound extremely harsh and need to stop acting like WM are timid and weak. I find WM to be very strong men and know what they want/like. BW need to be more approachable, less defensive, and learn to smile.
+Deborrah Cooper good morning deborrah i am.sorry if i offended you by my comment i meant that we are all gods people and we should not keep going on about the colour of our skin. But in todays society it is a issue. I was raised to be polite and kind to people i did not mean any harm. I believe in fairness. And it is just a public comment. My opinion to yours will not be the same. Please forgive me if i offend you that is not my intention. Have a lovely day and peace be with you.
Obviously if you believe in God and you believe God made everything on this planet, then GOD made people, leaves, animals, sky and water, flowers and insects, vegetables and fruits all different colors. Obviously GOD sees color. "God sees no color" What an asinine statement!!!! The problem is that mankind has assigned labels of worth and value to various colors instead of seeing everyone as equal but different. Stop using those dumbass blanket statements which eradicate differences and instead focus on our commonalities.
I have had some FINE white men approach me over the years.. I mean movie star handsome white man fine. I've even take a chance and gone on a couple of pleasant dates, Unfortunately I'm always in a damn relationship when I get the approach and their always from out of town. I always say if I'm ever single again I'm going to take a leap and try to date white men for awhile.
As a white guy, I have to say that I have seen some beautiful, GORGEOUS black women, i would love to date. who ,the moment they open their mouths remove any hope of ever getting to know them. They look so classy and beautiful but speak with so much disrespect and vulgarity, they act out in public and look for confrontation. That type of behavior just reinforces the stereotypical views that prevent the white guy from taking that bold step.
There are millions of highly educated, professional, born and raised middle to upper class black women. Daughters of politicians, judges, attorneys, physicians, university professors, business owners, CFOs, CEOs, etc.
The fact that you are attracted to ghetto hoodrats is your fault! stop watching rap videos and thinking those little chicks are representative of black womanhood. OMG men are so stupid. You don't judge a woman's class by how she LOOKS, you judge it by how she conducts herself.
I confuse people because I am all over the place. I was raised in the hood, but my mother was raised middle class and was college educated...my dad was an entrepreneurial thug. I went to charm school, had music tennis dance and acting lessons, and learned French and golfing before college. I am considered quite erudite, and possess an amazingly extensive vocabulary. I have extensive knowledge of the law, and am very adept at using and learning the latest technology. However, I also have no problem going back to my hood roots and cussing your muthafucking ass smooth the fuck out. I also love some Hennessey - the drink of hoodrats.
So you get the side of me that you deserve to see. Shoot your best shot. See which Deb comes forth.
I'm not racist but I SOMETIMES feel the same...the black thugs that treat white women like they are some trash, I don't want that. But if he got a good job, respects women...i'll treat him like a brother. I'd love to have a mulatto wife btw 😋
You talk like you breath in carbonoxide and us africans breath in oxygen, but we are all the same either white or black. The body parts you got thats the same thing we got so I dont see anything with white & black loving each other
Looking back I guess it was rejection I was afraid of. Living in the Midwest at the time 20 years ago I rarely if ever saw a black woman dating a white man. I definitely wanted to but being young I just assumed black women wouldn’t be interested in me. I’m glad she approached me!!!!!
Nothing if you have someone who knowingly participates WILLINGLY in your thing. But to have it and trick people into thinking you love them and are interested in more when you are just entertaining your sick twisted freak ass fetish is wrong as two left feet.
Every time a white guy wants to man up and engage the black ladies,
Someone always uses the
"Fetish" word. Why?
Now there's no particular stereotype to who that person maybe.
it's often enough another white guy maybe even the guy you came to the party with.
"Is this some kind of fetish"?
Sometimes it's a black woman,
but it's almost like people are trying to ruin it for everybody??
Basically, they're hypocrites. The behaviors that they accuse Non-Black men of, they have no problems accepting from their own and Black males are usually more vulgar and brutal about it. It's basically, a scare tactic.
because as a white man who is interested in darker skinned girls it has more to do with how much we're told black people hate us by the media, especially if we disagree with you politically we get called Nazi's and creepy people.
I have seen more black dudes abandoning their women in a time of crisis more than any other race of men in my hometown, lol. Of couse the funniest one was when this black dude was arguing with this bouncer outside of a bar. I could tell that his black girlfriend was shivering her ass off and just wanting to get inside. Of course once it got to heated, the black guy speed walked away from her and went around the corner, lol.
Because they believe the lies black males spread about us on media. Look at how black males portray black women in music, movies and even their comedy?
AND top it off with black women never questioning it and being seen on TV screens crying for these bozos and it seems like both black males and black women agree with this imagery and it therefore must be true.
Also, its mysogynoir. Even if a lot of our stereotypes are completely ridiculous, white men WANT to believe it because white men are not in competition with black males (thank you KENDALL st Charles for pointing this out) they are and always have been in competition with black women. Because black women pose the biggest threat. The vast majority of the time, black males are as white supremacist as the KKK so no one is worrying about THEM. Its black women that pose the biggest threat.
White males fear the power that black women represent. They only propel THEIR women because their women make mini copies of THEM!
This is why they go for PALE asian women and not darker ones. And when they realize asians genes are hella strong, it's too late. 😂😂🤣
But a woman that can stand on her own and NOT make children in his imagery(generally speaking) h
He doesnt know what to do with that!
That is a subconcious understanding.
When they get over all that, they get obsessed!
Deborrah Cooper we actually taught Arabs and whites how to make money. They came to our universities and learned. Read the historical literature. Look at present day Africa, the media successfully having you think Africans aren't doing anything. Quite the contrary. A few years ago, Muammar Gaddafi was killed because he wanted to unite saharan Africa with north east Africa under one currency to control its resources. The structure would not allow as Europe would be devastated financially. Its countless other examples where blacks and Africans controlled entire systems. FYI, white population is down world-wide so it will be more measures used to try for them to maintain their place... Its not working. The American BLACK, the Caribbean BLACK, and the south American BLACK is the strongest, most mentally capable and ingenious human to ever walk the planet. Every male thug, female hoochie mama or fcuk boy thats negatively deplicted in the media, an army of 1000 strong is positively affecting change. The media wont tell you that, but they will have you believe that you need to go elsewhere for your needs...
Deborrah Cooper great conversation but genital mutilation was introduced from Arab slave traders AND the spread of Islam, as they wanted to control the urges of women, both Arab and Black. Rings on the neck and piercings and tattoos are cultural aspects of life that cannot be understood from a western perspective. The slave trave was called the Trans-Indian Ocean slave trade, based primarily on sex. The women were the commodity and were used to grow harems to illustrate wealth. Have you ever wondered why the people in the middle east are dark? Its that African genetic that still populate their blood. Where are the african males? Well, they were castrated and killed because there was no need. Unlike, the transatlantic slave trade, The men was the commodity because labor was the driving force... The disrespect and dehumanizing attitudes were introduced by white. The easiest reference is in our American Constitution when Blacks were considered 3/5 human and white women had no rights at all... So from a white man's historical perspective and the fact that white women had no rights, its not a far jump to arrive that black men were considered equal to pigs and black women were considered vessels to breed, serve, and disposable... Check and read the U.S. constitution, the Black Codes, and historical slave records to see the language and adjectives used to describe black women and men...
veronicajade20 Also too, I think there is a segment of the white male population who are probably oblivious to any interest in them by black women. Hell we are oblivious to interest by our own white ladies. A white man can be pretty hard to reach like that. Also quite a many of them are reserved, antisocial recluses unlike the seemingly more forward and outgoing nature of black women. I know many of us, particularly of German and Swiss descent who wont even talk to their neighbors unless prodded. I am personally this way myself. I have been to New York City a few times and I hate it. Not a city person at all. Perhaps some of this will enlighten you as to why white men are the way they are.
veronicajade20 Well America's rural population is actually declining with more and more people moving to urban areas and the country side is where most whites reside, including myself. Someday your wish will happen as more people become better adjusted to other races. But right now I don't think white men would be too thrilled at the idea of totally breeding our European genetics out of existence even though it seems quite trivial to women.
That has always been a pet peeve of mine when I hear black women say a white guy has a fetish. I always try to correct them and say maybe he just has a preference or he just finds you attractive. So many black women have such low self-esteem and think that no one wants them and it's so sad and untrue. You never hear white woman being accused of having a fetish for black men, evn though more of them date outside the race than white men.
I'm trying to figure it out. They don't want White men to fetishize them, but on the other hand, nobody wants them.
Asian women are fetishized by White men. Guess what Asian females do? They advantage of it by quietly moving to area where White men will see then more frequently and seek then out. Asian females don't white men fetishizing them as something to fear, but as something that gives them power and desirability. Where Black women see fetish, Asian women see desirability.
I honestly think their fear of making an approach is due to cultural conditioning by their families and the media. There’s really nothing that can be done unless THEY want to work to address that fear. If not, oh well, life goes on. And thankfully, if you’re a black woman that’s open to dating QUALITY men, including QUALITY white men, there are some decent, quality white men from all over the world. Some of the white male losers in the comments here were clearly rejected by their OWN women and couldn’t get any woman of any race unless they paid them. They ARE NOT quality men, just because they just so happen to be white. They’re rejects and they know it. We know it too, so they can get lost. Anyway, you don’t have to be stuck with one group of knucklehead men from ANY one country. There are more men on Earth than women - we don’t have to settle.
😂 sister White Men my sisters date were what I call work in progress types.
mostly low confidence and they were shy types.
my sisters were completed by my sisters.
.my sisters fixed and made them have more confidence and lost their shyness
There’s more to life then white men they are not the only option in life. There’s many guys who are well rich in color *other than black men and who are way more gorgeous than white men. Explore your options beyond them.
White men generally never cold approach, hit on or ask out ANY woman, whether she is Black, White or otherwise. Most of us don't give a sh*t about women, to be honest. They aren't worth our time.
We White men are naturally MGTOW. We don't need women in our lives. They are a nuisance, really.
Your strange & bitter, & silly & a foolish misguided young person. Most of us dont live like you & your bitter young narcissistic buddies. Nor do we want to..caring about people is the most important part of your character in life. Your failing, seek help for sure. too bitter to be so young...
blondegamerguy Your ancestors spent a lot of time building your own women up on pedestals, where ever your ancestors went, while messing with other cultures of women. I'm just going to be honest. I feel like the MGTOW are so privileged, that you created your own problems. You made a monster (White women) and now, you have no idea what to do with them, since they are now turning against you or more so, biting the hand that fed them. Why are all women to blame for your ancestors' actions of instilling entitlement and privilege in White and fair skinned women?
Senait Ashenafi all the other men have noticed our loyalty, white men are attracted to the idea of having/hanging onto all they want to possess...I married a sexy athletic black man who work amongst white men 2 of which have black wives, very interesting insight???
What people forget is that the majority of black women in interracial relationships are with another person of color. Latino, Hawaiian, Filipino, Samoan, Tongan, Chinese, Korean, East Indian, or French, French Canadian, Italian, etc. There is a big world out here and there is no need to think there are only two races of men to choose from. Come on you all, stop. Broaden your horizons. In this situation the guy was white, but if he is NON-BLACK that is all that you should be looking at.
Thank God we black women have variety & choices today. We don't need to or want to deal with one race of men. It's a variety of men of different races & cultures dating & getting married to black women & on the increase. There's so many variety of beautiful, smart precious black women. who could resist.........
BMCollectiveLosers ma'am, no disrespect, but you didn't read that article, based on your reply. It stated 9% of black women were married interracially as of 2010, compared to 22% for black men.
Refer to "Section 4": https://www.google.com/amp/www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2017/06/12/key-facts-about-race-and-marriage-50-years-after-loving-v-virginia/%3famp=1
If a man isn't approaching me, I take it to mean he's not interested... or he doesn't think I'm worth risking possible rejection.
I remember a man telling me something I've never forgotten: A man can be attracted... but sometimes not attracted enough.
If he's not willing to make his feelings known, and let the chips fall, he's not that interested.
I'm old school... and I'm old. I don't have time for stolen glances, nervous fidgeting, mixed signals, endless flirting... nope. If his job is a reason for him to pause, then it may not be a possibility until you leave. But it's time to dance or get off the stage.
Also, he has to consider how discreet she'll be. I've worked in office situations and I can always tell when a man and woman are dating/having sex, because the woman gives it away. She starts hanging out at his desk and marking her territory... and the man acts no different.
I don't approach men. If I'm open to a man's attention, I will be friendly and approachable...that's throwing the ball in his court. It's up to him to decide if the possibility of a yes overrides a possible no.
uh not true lol
y'all never met shy men have you?
I have my boyfriend was a shy type.
I used my intelligence to figure a way to tell him I'm interested.
he got it and slowly but surely came to me.
been dating for 4 years now.
he likes to cook [ knows Italian and Greek and Spaniard foods] and loves to give me foot massages 💆
White and Asian men control the power structure globally. A Black woman would be a fool not to consider dating and marriage. Btw no decent man wants a hood rat or woman who always state I'm a strong Black woman or I'm a Queen and don't behave accordingly.
Mother ship lol White men won't have shit in the future. Why don't you google some of these "white owned" companies and see how many BILLIONS of dollars they are in the hole Lol, yes we will see how powerful white men are when the Us Federal Reserve stops printing money for their ass and China becomes the new "World Reserve"
I find it difficult to date someone that you work with. If you have any conflicts in the relationship remember you have to see this man everyday. I have known people who keep office relationships the secret and even who have gotten married but it definitely takes cooperation between the tooth and maturity to make it work.
The two times I went out with someone at work, they were the one who gave it away. Doing everything you just said. I was chill, but the guys were just too worried about what I was doing, who I was doing it with, and where. It was so stupid. Once I got a little older I realized my daddy was right and I never did it again.
joisan mi Yes, it takes a lot of maturity and discretion. I know of ONE instance where a man and woman were dating, and NOBODY knew, until they announced their engagement. We were in shock, because they both kept it under wraps.
In most cases I've seen, the woman will start to act different - she'll find excuses to always be at his desk, or/and she's watching his interactions with other women in the office. Her actions give it away, and before you know it the whole office knows.
I think interracial dating is wrong especially when the illuminati and liberals are pushing for it .people need to ask why in the past the Australia natives were forced to breed with the whites to breed out their color .in America they are doing the same why because when you breed out the black they are less strong and easily controlled.black people stay black dont be controlled by the liberals they been trying hard to control blacks with planned parenthood the illuminati interracial dating.
+Random white women and men are promoted heavily among interracial dating in tv shows, movies, commercials, etc, that's why many humans of every skin color wants them. I'll prove it to you, type in white couple of white couple with baby in the images part of any major search engine. Bing, Google, etc Many results shows a white person with mixed kids or somebody else of a different race. Then type in black couple, Asian couple, or Asian couple or black couple with baby, etc after. Many results will show people of the same race together that you put in. That's how promoted it is.
It's just all of these black men wanting these white women. I hate it when those women call their men "my chocolate man" or my "black devil".. Whereas we black women get left out on that. It's hard to get a black man out there. It's hard to get a white man that's used to an actual thick woman.
Kevo !!!!!!You don't control us with your history nonsense.!!!!!! Black, Black, Black, Black, Black, men are not making happy healthy black fathers or husbands today, right here, right now for the most part & most are not qualified, skilled, educated, or Christian, or faith centered, who do traditional life with marriage & children, and on our same social or economic level or religious level. they don't qualify mostly & there's are shortage of black men based on real studies not gossip. we deserve the best life happiness , husbands & families. NOTHING less.... WAKE UP....... BLACK WOMEN WANT MARRIAGE, CHILDREN, COMMITMENT, LOYALTY, RESPECT, LOVE, DESIRE, ABUNDANCE, HOMES, GOOD SCHOOLS & GOOD JOBS, MEDICAL NOW, FOR OUR LIVES. BLACK MEN DONT ,AINT, OR CAINT OR WON'T. WHAT HAS A BLACK MAN DONE FOR BLACK WOMEN LATELY AND IN THE PAST. STARTNG WITH BLACK FATHERS TO HAVING A HUSBAND & PARTNER IN LIFE. THIS ISN'T ABOUT YOUR SILLY FEARS & MOBO JUMBO CRAP & IDEAS. IT'S ABOUT OUR LIVES, REALITY, HAPPINESS, HEALTH LOVE OF SELF & WELL BEING. WE OUR DESIRED, DATING, & GETTING MARRIED TO OUR CHOICES NOT YOURS. GET LOST WITH YOUR SELFISH BULL CRAP. TROLL SOME WHERE ELSE WITH THAT DUMB MESS...KEEP YOUR FEARS TO YOUR SELF. GOD SAID TO DON'T HAVE A SPIRIT OF FEAR ANY WAY. BELIEVE FOR THE BEST & PREPARE FOR IT * THE OPPORTUNITY WILL COME TO RECIEVE IT. THE BEST LOVE & LIFE OF WHAT EVER COLOR OR CULTURE GOD SENDS US. NOT ONE CHOICE ONE COLOR, THAT'S LIMITED RACIST & DUMB. TELL YOUR SELF THAT NOW WHEN YOU WANT TO COME UP WITH THIS AGAIN. BLACK WOMEN ARE GONE TO BETTER AND LARGET LOVE OPPORTUNITIES FOR GOOD. GOT IT.......
I know that God is fine with interracial dating, so I am as well. You know who gives me the most respect as an African American woman? Asian men. They're good listeners, usually pretty genuine, caring, kind, smart, and usually, hard-working, as well.
Kevo A knowing this didn't stop anyone else from breeding out their race with non Black Women so we are way past that. You are bringing up old outdated views and pushing it onto Black Women when you should be telling those Bm over there your views not us because we not there anymore . We have already divested. I once had those fears you speak of but now I realized that I can not control other people because people are still going to do what they do regarless of you. I am getting tired of the hypocracy and double standards that are placed on Black Women and refuse to here anything about breading out race when you got the bm breading all Black people out wether we like it or not so it useless at this point to keep down that path. Move on because we have.
They (bm) bread out their race ten times more and that gave me permisition( not that I need permision from anyone ) to finally state my preferance for White Men that I always had as a lil girl but soiety never allowed me to express. Now I believe that any Black Women that have a preference should shouting it out from the roof tops . ILOVE WHITE MEN ...And I don't care who knows. Ladies it is time to let our preferences be known. Its now or never. We only got one life and it is time to live ! Not struggle having doubts about"What if I would have leveled up and live the life I know I deserve hand have every right to. I am not going to let Rachet shonda and her fetish for her "Black Kangs" to ruin my chances to be with what ever Man I prefer to be around.
Many black women are not interested in WM, so to avoid rejection most will not approach — which is smart. If you are a fit BW, you will get attention from ALL RACES OF MEN! Another thing is when BW are fit, no other race of women are fucking with us. Black males know this, which is why they try and fatten you up.
White men obsess over slim - fit - slim thick BW, this is a fact. I know because I am one and I piss white women off everyday...Hahaha. It is rare to see a fit BW, especially down south. So when a white man sees a fit BW, they go a bit crazy. Personally, I prefer asian men, so im glad white men do not approach me. Asian men are more humble imo.
I am a,white guy, I prefer Mexican women. Of course you could look as good as your gonna look, I don't give a shit. It doesn't mean I find you unattractive, it's just the desire to approach isn't there.
+Adapt Reform yes they are...we told my relative that when she was dating her over weight boy freind who was scared of better men taking her. HE ate for 4 people every time he ate a meal. His mother said nothing to fat * getting fatter boy. HE helped fatten her uP. she moved on . still tryin to get that wait down. Even though she's pretty. she needs to loose 45 pounds. Her current biy freind works out. wants her to lose 30 ponds & work out with him. He eats strictly healthy foods. she sees now past boy freind was purposely fooling her with let's eat out to fatten her up. he kept her eatin in resturants too much. on purpose. wake up to dating sabatoged & influences that are bad for your body & slick, seemingly generous but have a evil purpose. a guy or girl can get fooled by this. Oh yeah my married Freind put on 70 pounds. States that she was smart enough to fatten up her husband too, so he can't go no where on her cause their both fat . she did this. Now Had the weight lost surgery since then.....it got dangerously out of control & health problems..
I'm a petite, fit Black woman in the South too. I get horrid glances from white women and some actually say, "My God! You're tiny!" (Insert low-key envious tone there). White men do obsess over my body because I've got a very nice shape (slim thick). A white guy told me in highschool that my figure was, "perfect." He was looking at my behind and waist when he said it, lol.
My body (face, as well as personality) has gotten the attention of white men since high school. Some after 20 years have told me about outfits I wore in school that they adored due to how they fit my body. I can't even remember what clothes I had back then. Obviously, they paid close attention.
I have always had my own long hair, as long as hip length, and when I have cut it short, they STILL gawk because Halle Berry is one of the most beautiful women on the planet, biracial or NOT. I've worn the "Halle" cut myself. Long hair or short, if you have it, you have it.
I, for one, am definitely interested in White men and all races of men who aren't Black. 😆
A lot of mammies/handmaidens may not be open to going out of the fence in order to graze in greener pastures, but I'm not in that "majority of Black women don't like white men" category.
I'm a divested Black Woman, simply put. No more Blakistan shit for me.
Wow… I’m very surprise about this comment section… It appears that a lot of people have a lot of things to say however have any of them dated a white guy??? I really would not be taking the advice of someone who has not even been on a date with someone outside the race… Just my opinion
That's sad but true..Most black males do not take women or just life serious period..I see so many of them around where I live with NOTHING to show for their life but a whiskey bottle and back child support debt..Smfh.
brownladyjay 08 Thank you...like I mentioned under another comment, black folks have a low key way of telling BW that our value and worth is lower than low. Meanwhile, we are dating and marrying Men of other races!!! I say this also: even if some BW aren't attracted to non black men, at least they don't have to feel pressured to settle for a black one, simply because he is Black!
The ones very USED to being around black people and dating black women are way more forward. I used to live in a 98% white suburb and everywhere I went the white guys were grinning and doing the eyebrow raise thing, or stopping in their tracks and staring or a bit overly effusive in their greeting. It was so cute and they were so awkward and unsure I started referring to them all as "Chip." They were just so damn CHIPPER. LOLOL! A couple of times when we were talking and I coudl see them swallowing and looking unsure about what to do all I would say is something along the lines "ladies wait to be asked" or "go for it" or something along those lines. Then they would step up and ask for a number, to take you to lunch or dinner, etc. I met some really interesting men that way. Nothing permanent jumped off but I had many enjoyable dates with great convo, fabulous wine, and was taken to places I would not normally go because I'd never heard of a couple of them. Back in the cut winery restaurants and stuff in the Livermore/Dublin/Brentwood/San Ramon area.
Why do they continue to put these types of videos out? It's seems as if Some black women are BEGGING for caucasoid attention. If the white man aint making a move its because " he is just not into you....." Get over it and get your self esteem together . And whatever you do, black women do not be a white man's side chick. You know, . Something just to explore until he finds the right white woman to marry.
Ms. Und3rst00d how about not be any man's side chick?
Black people always try to push the idea that only White men have ill intent towards Black women and that melanin is always benevolent and honorable.
Ms. Und3rst00d I’m sorry have you ever dated a white man??? Black men approach you a little bit more differently than white men do… For you to make this type of comment have you dated a white man; if not let me give you a few pointers
The dating dynamics between black women and white or non-black men are interesting to say the least. White men know that black women are accustomed to a more aggressive approach style from black men. A lot of white guys are afraid to approach a black woman, as a "street dude" would, because he thinks an approach such as that, would come off as being "patronizing" or "condescending". However, if he approaches a black woman like a "gentleman", she might perceive him as "corny". So he takes the "safe" road and remains cordial and that is about it. What I find sort of comical is that most black women seem to believe, that if a white guy shows her the slightest courtesy, or attention, than she thinks he should automatically want to date, or marry her. More often than not, a white guy's job, social status, and career mobility are intimately tied to who he marries or dates...Those are the considerations most white men have to consider when choosing a mate, regardless of color.
MxTooReal Well, let me revise what she said. Smart women of class with common sense would be repulsed by "street dudes". I have friends who were born into the roles of classy Black women. They've never gone for thugs because they're not interested in time wasters, like that. Leave that garbage in the street.
Women of class do not go for "street dudes" so your point is retarded. Unless you want to date a hoodrat chick, why are you even thinking about what they respond to? SMDH. More important in dating than skin color is upbringing and socioeconomic class. A middle class suburban raised black woman will not have a damn thing in common with some "street dude" from the hood and will be repulsed.
My apologies--It was not my intention to be insulting, or demeaning but I am a "Realist" before I am anything else. The reality is that interracial dating for black women, regardless of her "worth and value", is still a challenge.
Hi Deborah, thanks for taking the time to do the Video in response to my dilemma. Jim Fitz YouTube account belongs to my dear brother. My name is Vanessa. I used and am still using my brothers account to protect my identity and I am 100% black female! Thank you for highlighting how selfish I have been. I didn’t even consider in depth his position, clients and everything else you mentioned. Because I know that if he approached and we hit it off, nobody wouldn’t know that we are dating at all! I would and hope he would keep our relationship private and professional. I think you are 100% right in saying that he’s deciding whether I’m worth taking the risk for. He has his business, career and kids to think about. He has branches in USA and that’s all I’m going to say. I’m not going to approach him for no coffee at all! He must come to me. I have value. I’m a woman and I need a strong man who will step forward and man up in a professional way when negative situations arise. I really can’t cope with weak men. So, it looks like we are both going to loose this loving feeling and let it slide. I doubt he’ll ever approach me and I will never, ever approach him. I know feelings and as I’ve said before I know he has very serious feelings for me. If another male colleague comes near me and talks too long he gets red in the face and agitated. The male colleague who I speak to from time to time even joked and said it looks like xxxxx was getting jealous! I’ve been at the company 2 years, received a promotion to director 3 months ago and, now because of the department I’m in we have to see and meet each other regularly. I wanted to see if I could trust him and tested him 2 months ago by telling him the I’m really being picked on by some jealous white women in the company since I received the promotion. I told him everything they were doing to me in detail and named names. I asked him not to say a word to anyone and you know he never did. I know he never because the same women are still being nasty and carrying on. I’ve tested him with many scenarios where I needed to have faith in his trust. I even bitched about the Chairman big time and his inappropriate conduct in the office and my guy has never ever let me down!! I know I took a gamble talking to him about certain things but my gut told me He has my back and I wasn’t wrong. Yesterday when I arrived at the office, he didn’t even let me sit down properly before he came over discussing some random nonsense which he could have emailed me. He just pulled the chair out and sat beside me so comfortable. Again, this morning he emailed me at 09:05 when he never saw me asking me random rubbish about some stupid meeting which I already told him was being resolved yesterday. Today I was walking towards him and he stared me up and down and looked until Passed him and focused on my breasts which are big! I thought to myself, I know what’s running through your mind. Thanks for your excellent, brilliant video. I’ve learnt something but knowing me, I’m just going to keep my head down and forget him. Cause he could well have a girlfriend or something also to consider. I just don’t know. He acts single. If he does have a girlfriend and he’s behaving like this with me then, I wouldn’t want him! Thanks Deborah and keep up the excellent videos which I watch from my YouTube account.
Omg reading this was stressful. Just ask him out for a coffee or something. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know. There is nothing wrong with making a move to get things going. I asked my guy if he "wanted to hang out sometime" and it was the best decision I ever made.
I agree that that his reluctance comes from her being a subordinate at work, not from her being black. If I were her, I would get a job at a different company, ask him to write me a letter of reference, make sure I gave him my contact info under the guise of using him as a reference, and initiate a coffee date as a thank you. I don't know about her, but I've never had a problem finding a job. Finding a quality man is another story. That is much more difficult. I'd take a chance on Mr. CEO. As for that stupid, "Maybe I'm a fetish" question. That mess gets on my last nerve. I wish BW would stop listening to that nonsense! Do they even know what a fetish is? A person has a fetish when they can only get aroused by something that is generally non-sexual, like eating your toenails or licking your eyeballs or wearing a furry costume (No, I have no personal experience with any of that stuff, but I have read about it). If a man gets aroused by your hair, or your skin, or the shape of your body, or your smile, or your laugh, or the way you make him feel, that's just genuine lust and attraction! Why do BW allow these anti-IR relationship hooligans to gaslight them? If you find a man who treats you with love and respect, whose willing to provide for you and protect you, go for it! Regardless of color. Doing otherwise is stupid.
Lol. Doing all that for date? That may not even work out? Wtf?
Such a round about way to get away from the fact that some white men simply think they are better than black women. Please move past those losers.
Women should not be doing all that work. SHE is the prize. NOT HIM!
Great topic! I think based on my observations white guys flirt so much differently than what black women are used to so for many black women they may not even realize that the white guy who raises his eyebrows when he walks past you is in fact flirting . I had at least three white guys I ran into in public walk past me and made eye contact and raised there eyebrows like hey! LOL! Funny and flirty!
Black Amerian women really don't have to flirt, because of the way black American men approach. If black men see someone they find attractive there isn't no way you won't find out. But BW have to realize that not all men of other cultures are like this. BAMs have to realize that not all men are like this. Even intraracially. I've been approached by black non AA's and that was different as well.
Belinda that was the story of my life with most AA black men. The African, Carib etc. men that approached were way more subtle. That's another reason. The way BAM approach can be off-putting.
@Tealicious587, yours was the only comment for this video that I agree with. My mind is being blown by some of the comments expressed. Some are truly sad and pathetic, others totally disturbing, and still others naive. However your comment is valid. White men and Black women do indeed have a different way of flirting. On both sides, we miss the subtle signals that there is interest and attraction.
As Black women we have developed a nasty habit of dropping our smile if we come across Black men that even remotely look like they are going to flirt with us, because we don't want to hear *"Yo baby, you need to smile more"* Yet a smile is what many White men see as a sign that we are open to them approaching us. With Black men it is like playing checkers, With White men it is like playing chess. I.E. we have to think outside the box, it isn't as straight forward.
I believe that most white men don't approach black women because most white men are not interested in black women. Black women have a lot of negative stereotypes on us and a lot of white and non black men are probably afraid of dating black women because of that. Most White guys also feel that most black women aren't interested in them.
Also date European men. For the life of me, I dont understand why more black women in America only stick to American white men. They are largely a waste of time. Euro men are much more forward. And frankly, much more interesting and masculine. Just vet well, period. Wherever he is from. But please include foreign men since you want to get many dates under your belt and who has time for anxiety Larry all day?
Yes. Most arent interested in black women. This is correct. It's more than likely due to conditioning.
Now here is the fun part.
Black women make up less than 10% of the society. Cut 6% off for those that are interested in IRR. And all could be partnered up many times over even with a small percentage of white men.
Numbers. That's all that matters.
Deborrah Cooper this is true, about some white men after getting old and more financially established (thus societal and family obligations won't hold as heavy burden on his love life as opposed to a younger man).
These certain white men typically have a midlife crisis, or they come out of the closet, or as you said they marry an Asian or black woman or whatever THEY always wanted. After they are established.
However, I reiterate, please make sure he isn't just fetishizing you . And yes the woman has to do 50% of the work if she wants equality in relationships. Men aren't the slobbering fools our daddies and granddadies were. You can't have your cakes and eat it too.
A lot of young dudes who aren't cucked are busy creating wealth and success.
I was told by a wise man:
"Girls are okay, girlfriends are not. At your age (I was 20 but it still applies), especially they interfere with your personal development."
I have had a pleasant experience living by this axiom. I'm always nice and polite, but ill be damned before I bend over backwards.
Until I'm ready, I'm not gonna agree to marriage.
If she somehow she magically comes along, and it's meant to be, I would be open and receptive to her.
Then, after some time, we both would decide to continue developing our relationship or if it has ran its natural course. Only marriages are designed to last, relationships are still tentative time to assess your potential mate
Not saying this out of bitterness or anything (my biggest fear is turning into a bitter old man so...), I'm just expressing my view and experience in life I have seen as an old millennial.
So yes, it's harder for ALL women and for black women just being a lower percentage of the pop to choose a mate from (if she wants a BM).
I've seen way too much weird stuff, so it's believable.
Thanks for responding without condescension or name calling. This is how we have conversations on "sensitive" issues.
Untrue. They have older children who are NOT baggage, they re adults or damn near. And they have MORE to offer because they have more money, settled in their careers, calm and know their value and place in society, have less to no need to prove themselves because they're already established. It's amusing to me the misinformation a group of you are spreading. I think you are black men with a woman's profile coming into a black woman's conversation throwing shade. Cause after all BM cannot STAND that some pussy somewhere in the black community won't be theirs.
You know the man may not be all that into her. She thinks he is but she may be very mistaken. I agree that she should test the situation however she much be prepared for her overture to fall flat. If it does then it is time to move on.
This is definitely a topic that I deal with at my job. I’m a BW and I noticed a few months back that my supervisor a WM would hit on me for months. At the time he didn’t mention his personal life. I had to do some digging on my own and find out from a co worker buddy is married. So ofcourse I left him alone. He still tries to talk but I keep things professional. The only issue I have now is that he gets mad when I talk to other men that are single. So I don’t know if he has feelings or not. I just know it’s uncomfortable 😣 to be around him sometimes. I’m friendly to all staff. However, I hate when he acts moody like he’s a grown azz man with a wife. There are other guys but at this point I am trying to meet people outside of work.
Well when it is a direct supervisor that is an All Points Hell to the No No. Never ever do that! Peers is one thing, or even a manager in a different division where you work is another thing. But your DIRECT supervisor? All the nopes ever.
Since high school I've had my share of white boys who stare and do nothing. It was cute in high school but if a guy of any color is afraid to approach me now then I can't help but think he is not the man for me. I need someone who is bold, can act with conviction and stand on the strength of those convictions. That goes for all areas of his life. If there is no logical reason why he shouldn't approach me, like this work scenario, then he better have the balls to say something.
I'm happy to show keen interest once he's made that 1st move but the idea of him not having the balls to approach really turns me off. I like being pursued.
Thank you Deborrah for another great video! This is an interesting topic. It seems like the one's in my area (NC) break their necks to look away from me or pretend they are on their phone to avoid looking my way. Lately a lot of them have been in cahoots with bm with picking and making fun of black women. They may not be as vulgar and out loud about it, but they are right beside them laughing along and joining in on the "fun." When I'm just walking by them I see them saying something to each other under their breath and when I walk by they all bust out laughing (both wm and bm together). I feel like I used to be open to dating white men because I found them attractive, but as I get older, those feelings are dwindling. The only time I get male attention is from aggressive men, homeless men or men who make fun of my looks, but other than that I'm pretty invisible to them.
Sounds like me.Cant get a quality man to save my life.Im a pretty lowkey girl,cute but no stunner.Have a job,own my car,no kids.Like a strong silent type.I am not shy,just selective with who I give my time too,I hate small talk.But if the guy isnt some dominant who thinks Im a submissive(Im not) just looking for a side piece until he is back on good terms with his wife or a complete abusive asshole who thinks he can talk down to me because Im not a baddie and should be grateful for any attention that comes my way,they're not interested,lol.
Black women. Please avoid white men with black male friends at all costs. Seriously. It is extremely rare that that black or even mixed/Hispanic male isnt bashing black women to him. Trust me. And white men wont call them out because of a warped selective fear of seeming racist. Also, because it's weird for men to bash their own, specifically and considering all of black womens strange loyalty to black males, all these factors make it seem true!
Just avoid white males that have black male friends. If you can. They are almost always bashing black women to them.
Plus, an ADULT should have explained to you the issue of attraction. Even the mist handsome, or most beautiful woman in one person's eyes won't be viewed that way by everyone! Just like people choose pancakes over waffles, scrambled eggs over omelettes, Fords over GMC, Honda's over Toyota's, dresses over pants, bowling over tennis. Neither choice is bad or wrong, hust different. And there never should have been one second where you felt badly about yourself based on a random teenage boy's dick. SMDH.
Shittt my mom married my father(they adopted me into the family and she had 3 boys when they met) and he was a SUCESSFUL chemical engineer and loveddd my moms attitude lol and YES he was a "white boy"😁😁😁😁😅😊😊 r.i.p i miss him a lot😥😓. Ive found in my past experience they only come with that "ive never been with a black girl" bs🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Me as a Man I love your channel but 4 Me when it comes 2 dating I might but Relationships I don't trust no Woman I'm a Black Man and I have a White Girl we Friends but I keep telling her I don't want a Relationship we hang out alot she tries 2 give me Money but I don't take Money from women her Mistake is one of them she tries 2 change me she says I'm stuck in my Ways and I am plus I like the Single Life anyway and No I'm not out here Screwing every woman I see because Everything looks Good isn't always Good
Many white men haven't been socialize around black people so they are reluctant to approach black women. I had a white guy who liked me when I was attending college and he would stare and smile or talk to me in a group setting but never asked me out. He was kind of immature so it didn't go anywhere.
I love the black mans fragile ego. Oh you love to use the term white boy, fetish, bedwench bullshit when it fits your ideals. It's you lusting after white women, it's not a fetish right? Oh what bullshit thing you gonna say next to keep your fragile ego going, all black men know how to fight, lol.
Thanks for having this conversation Deborrah! Black women need to do what is best for them. I am in an interracial relationship and get more grief from other Black people than Whites. I am Caribbean and see people for character not color. Black women can be happy with other races of men. They do find us beautiful. I can’t live my life for my ancestors and a community that does NOT accept you if you do not fit into their definition of a Black person. I love Black people but we have got to do better. What I don’t understand is the backlash against BW/WM relationships now but when Black men were marrying out all these years and excluding us from everything that was ok though??
I have thought this for years ,I heard the twins from sister sister speak about this. One of them is married to a white man and she said they get more hate and racism from blacks people... Yet white women and black men have dated for years
As far the situation in the story, who the heck knows why that individual man is not approaching that individual woman. The only way to have even a chance at finding out why, and it’s not a guarantee since he could lie, would be to ask him. Not saying I’d recommend that.
He could be in a relationship that she knows absolutely nothing about. This is the same thing happening to me at work. However, I found out that he has a girlfriend in another city. I heard him mention it to someone else in conversation, then I chimed in to get details...lol.
I can still tell that he's highly interested and can barely contain himself when I'm around, but he's already in a relationship.
Me, I'm not pressing the issue with him, because what goes around comes around.
Long distance relationshps never work. He is about to break free of that and get local talent. That is always what inevitably happens in long distance affairs. Either one has to move to where the other lives, OR you break up because of loneliness, horniness, or met someone they like better who is more geographically desirable. Sometimes all three.
Second answer, is tied to the first answer. Due to how racist the vast majority of white Americans are towards black people, they have created a nation with very limited places that are truly racially integrated.
For instance, where I grew up there was the white side of town and the black side of town, the black side of the beach and the white side of the beach, black clubs and white clubs, etc.
This lack of cross racial social connections makes it difficult for even the very few non racist white people to have lots of social interactions with black people which could overcome social awkwardness.
I know these aren’t the reading the minds of white dudes answers or the blaming some segment of the black population answers, but given human nature and dating patterns, it’s obvious to me that white peoples’racist feelings towards black people as well as the lack of truly integrated spaces in American society are imo by far the greatest impediments to wm approaching bw.
I think possible two answers. First answer a lot of white people are racist. This aversion to black people that an extremely large percentage of white people possess makes relationships with black people very unappealing to the vast majority of white people.
For instance, the loser bm who brag about white women wanting them, are delusional. There are well over 50million married white women in American, yet only 300,000 to 350,000 are married to bm. That’s .7% of married white women are married to black men. It’s nothing.
It sucks. But she might have to approach first. Bw/Wm is not as common as the opposite, which means they never assume that the other is attracted to them. The whole situation seems delicate too. Workplace relationships can be pretty toxic...
1. A lot of bw openly talk about them not being as desirable as bm. They'll say that they don't do anything for them (not dark enough, not manly enough, etc.).
2. The media is very powerful (you can resist it though), BUT people are sheep. If it shows them that a certain phenotype is attractive and/or the standard of beauty, men of all races are going to chase that woman.
3. White men, who are interested, fear being rejected by us, and their friends and family members. Getting with us is one thing. Dealing with others is another. We're not as exceptable as other races, just cold facts (I don't care though, I still like Asian men).
With that being said, there are a growing number of bw/wm couples (my parents saw this on cruises and saw it in Kentucky mostly). The marriages last longer (than any other pairing), and usually marry at a good social standing. A lot of these White men don't care about these issues, and pursue their bw. And tbh, these reasons are things that keep White and Asian men from pursuing bw.
Edit: Oof, I thought the story was American based. Meh, still generally applies.
Cherryblos9 - You are right about this. Most WM are not willing to take the social risks for marrying BW. They may be attracted but will not follow through bc of societal pressures and or repercussions.
Personally, I wouldn't get into a relationship with a co-worker, let alone a boss. I've known women to date bosses and it rarely ends well for the woman. If it's that serious, I would find a comparable job eleswhere and then approach.
I agree.But my bf who is white would always flirt With me at work.Has to be a white man that is open-minded. He would tell me he liked me.I would say no because of his age. One day I said well take me to luch. Lol I was joking but i was serious. Well 8 months later were living together in Galveston,tx
I'm white and, from my experience dating white guys, they (the quality ones) never approach directly. Everything is more indirect and subtle. I think showing interest this way is more respectful because it doesn't make the woman feel uneasy; it gives her time to feel comfortable, and both people can slowly gravitate toward each other over time. Eventually, you'll find you have enough in common which will give reasons to spend more time together, and once a friendship is established, maybe he can offer some sincere compliments or give some small gifts, eventually leading to more time together. I think if the guy just comes right at you, it's kind of offensive since he's not taking into consideration your comfort, only what he wants at that moment.
If I want to show interest in a white guy, I'll usually make a point to "need" him more by asking him for help with something, even something simple, which gives him permission to be around me and to spend time alone with me, inviting him into my personal space. This is also a good opportunity to observe his skills and to decide if he will be suitable or not. For instance, I like to see how a man handles a frustrating situation, to make sure that he's the type that will remain calm and level-headed, working out a problem through objective reasoning, rather than through force.
Well, women are the ones who hold the power of sexual selection; I think it's appropriate for the potential mate to tread carefully and to prove himself a capable partner since the woman is the one who could become pregnant. The woman has a lot more at stake. I've never heard a white guy say he wouldn't date a black woman, not since like the early 1990's (when it was more taboo, at least out here in the country.) I wouldn't recommend worrying about skin color; I would recommend focusing on asking the man to display his skills for you so you can gather information about him and be better equipped to make a decision. I wouldn't call it "scared to approach." I'd say it's more accurate to say they, "respect your autonomy." Maybe make sure your assessment of the particular guy is correct and not jump to a negative assumption. I mean if the guy is like 20, and has never been with a woman before, maybe he really is scared to approach, but the frontal lobe is fully formed at age 25, so beyond that age, maybe he has a reason to behave that way, and maybe he's trying to be a gentleman. I'd say, if you like him a lot, go for it! ;)
Deborrah Cooper but black women are famous for screaming to the heavens and above about how they Only day black men. I hear so many black women say this, and other races of men hear that also. So of course they would hesitate.
I got tired of being called "masculine" because of my height by "them" ...or ugly because my hair is natural and im dark skin.....That kind of abuse from your own kind takes a toll on you after awhile..That being said,I date tf OUTTTTTT and have never felt the relief of stress so quick with a decision.
brit llove no one can pay me to deal with another black guy,,,,,,lol.............nope,,,i had a black guy roll up on me at a traffic light called me ugly & a bitch b/c i was driving too slow for him.......mind u, n the state of south carolina slow traffic always has to keep right & god as my witness i was just cruising to the right minding my business & here that fool come acting a plump fool,,,,,,,i just hope & pray my son doesn't become a statistic
I've been called a man by a guy before. Some people just look for any point to try to attack you on because they're abusive people (and it can be absolutely ANYTHING.) I've had to tell my daughter this plenty of times. None of the comments have to do with you or the way you look; it's only a reflection of the person making the statements. Those people have to wake up to themselves every day and sleep with themselves at night. Then, during the day, they make horrific senseless noises.. and that's how their one and only life is spent.
My daughter is tall also, and a muscular powerlifter, I told her it's better to be with a stronger man that can appreciate her. If you come across as strong and stable, yes, it can be very intimidating because it shows that you have very high standards and it's something to be proud of. My daughter did end up marrying a great guy because she didn't compromise her own values for the sake of getting along with someone who couldn't appreciate her values. I'm very proud of her for being unyielding.
I'm not the best or worst in the beauty department, but I've been picked apart from top to bottom by people. And yes, maybe they're right, maybe I could improve my looks in some way (everyone has their own opinion on how to best achieve that), but them doing that is rude, and it's my decision to improve my looks or to not improve them because it's my body to do with what I want. If I choose to look like crap, I will do that, and if I want to dress up and look fancy, I'll do that, too. And it's not just by "mean-spirited" people either. The feminists who tell you you shouldn't wear makeup, in what they feel is you best interest, are doing it to, and it's still rude. Your body = your decision... period.
I love the fragile egos of black men. Oh you brag about your dick size, how being black, apparently means you can fight like Bruce lee. If you enter a room, everyone is just so intimidated. Of course if any of this bullshit were true, you wouldn't have to keep constantly bringing it up. It's fucking pathetic, your own women seem to be sick of it, lol.
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