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Dating Tips for Socially Awkward Guys!

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We know, we know, we're slackers! John and Lisa finally respond to some viewer mail asking how to get girls, go on dates, and overcome social awkwardness. Tweet: http://clicktotweet.com/uvgn1 Have you ever felt socially awkward? Do you have any dating tips of your own? Let us know in the comments! And don't forget guys, if you like this video please Like, Favorite, and Share it with your friends to show your support - It really helps us out! See you next time! ***************************************************** SUBSCRIBE and join the TYTU student body! http://tinyurl.com/9o8kpf4 ON FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/TYTUniversity ON TWITTER: @jiadarola @lisa_ferg @tytuniversity ON TUMBLR: http://tytuniversity.tumblr.com/ TYT University: College news, scandals, parties, tips and advice, relationships, sex and dating, self-help, music parodies, odd facts and more with hosts John Iadarola and Lisa Ferguson. http://youtube.com/user/tytuniversity
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Joel Brush (1 month ago)
I don't blame girls for thinking I'm weird or that I'm a hateful person because I don't talk to them it is weird to a girl who sees you as anti social they think your not interested in them or your gay. I say no matter your shyness make the attempt you may fear rejection but at least in the end you tried, it's better that you tried to be on your deathbed wondering what could of been loneliness will kill you the same way any disease could, regrets are the symptoms of your disease
I've asked 8 girls out, and only 2 said yes... One if them cheated on me, and the other one just broke up with me out of the blue. One of the people that rejected me told me to wait until we were older. I have a few people who I'm interested in, and I'm going to make progress towards the girls I have a crush on. The most awkward thing is though that one of them has a sister who's a friend of my brother's. Any advice?
mischief 24 (9 months ago)
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Joseph Shiller (9 months ago)
I got only two tips from this video: tip #1, lower my standards, and tip #2, practice acting less awkward with the women I select from tip #1.
GhostFox47 (9 months ago)
I get socialy akward around guys and girls but guys that I know, but girls that I know are still a trouble
Subbie The City (10 months ago)
But what about for award girls??
chunkeyknight (11 months ago)
This video is crap, all they did was tell a socially awkward person to pretend to not be. That's kinda hard!
CaliKroos 559 (1 year ago)
In other words lower your standards lolol
apope06 (1 year ago)
Lol. Ppl are having sex at 12
D'Mario Smith (1 year ago)
hmm thanks for the bad advice.
Dexter White (1 year ago)
Tip #1: Roofies and duct tape. Tip #2: See Tip #1.
Mirelle Wittig (1 year ago)
Same ... just as nervous 😩
PyramidHead138 (1 year ago)
i dont do the dating thing anymore, ive had enough women give me the cold shoulder. women hate men
x0shadowless0x (1 year ago)
4:25 Are you stupid? you are whats wrong with dating in society nowadays, why the hell do you think its a good idea to ask someone out that you don't like? "USE them as practice"? WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?! Don't fuck with other people's feelings if you are unsure of your own!! I agree much more with the guy, if you have a crush on someone and you ask them out and they say no then take some time if you need any and move on, there is over 6 BILLION people on the planet and yes, no one can talk to that many people in a life time on a personal level but if you keep trying you will find someone who accepts you and feels the same about you as you do for them, and if continuously searching is not your thing or it gets to the point where focusing on being alone is too much to bear then focus on you, further your education, your friendships, join a gym, a club, take up a new hobby that you enjoy, find something you enjoy doing with your time and you might just find your special someone while doing whatever that thing is, but don't, i repeat... DON'T USE PEOPLE as "practice" or at all, using people is a good way to die alone, and be alone for long before your death, it rude, cruel, heartless, and just down right WRONG!!
apope06 (1 year ago)
wtf? teens are having sex at 12! dont tey to make dudes feel better. lol.
Alvin chang (1 year ago)
I'm very awkward for social but I'm in a relationship.
Halo player of legend (1 year ago)
you know, some people don't even get a chance to kiss some one at all. and by that i mean it dosn't matter if it's in high school, collage or what ever.
XxBugifyxX (1 year ago)
awesome shirt
LarsTV (1 year ago)
you basically said: settle for whatever, you're probably not going to get ''the girl''
TheApexPlayer (1 year ago)
Ok so where do I find some socially awkward women
Keyspirits (1 year ago)
Alia Shelesh would u like to interact with me baby alia? 🌹😚
Ophelia Valentine (1 year ago)
TheApexPlayer Hiding in their houses because they are scared to interact with people
Jezza (1 year ago)
Having a date (kind of) later, wish me luck guys...
Gage T (1 year ago)
you guys never help!
my life is a living nightmare for a mid-adolescent teenage male
Mekong Giant catfish (1 year ago)
PixelBucket {Razor The Fox} nope mine is worse
David Ndiulor (1 year ago)
Flirting = showing attraction (subtle) and then playing it off as a joke. Everyone is comfortable with a joke. Therefore if they accept the joke they also accept the signs of attractions. #correctmeifimwrong
David Ndiulor (1 year ago)
Social awkwardness = being unsure of people's acceptance of your words and behaviour. Embarrassing-confidence (couldn't think of another word for it) = being incorrectly sure of people's acceptance of your behaviour. aka Cringyness
The Lone Outlaw (1 year ago)
Best piece of advice I can give. Don't go out looking for a girlfriend. Look around where you're already at for a wife. Start as strangers, move up to pals, friends, and then close friends, then best friends, and then eventually, you'll fall in love or she will. You only get one heart to fill, don't waste it on somebody who doesn't deserve it.
Ridder K (1 year ago)
Try to aproatch awkward girls?!?! Bro, are u f dumb?
Mike r (1 year ago)
you advice was just "stop being socially awkward" well why didn't I think of that? why don't I just turn my social awkwardness switch off. My best hope it to find a cute socially awkward girl
Gage T (1 year ago)
Mike R the fact is most girls can have almost any guy because men are so easy and guys like us aren't very appealing when the "popular" or "hot" guy are just as easy as us most of the time
LowLinK (2 years ago)
My tip is be yourself. Seriously. The problem with being yourself is that, to be yourself, you need to be comfortable. And the only way you gonna be comfortable with girls is being with girls. So just embrace your social awkwardness and get exposure. Get out. Go out by yourself. If you go if your friends you'll just stand there like a pussy with your guard up, making up excuses about how you cannot go talk to this girl. If you go by yourself you'll be forced to interact with other people, get to know them, make friends. Then the girls just come along the way.
fieryelf (2 years ago)
I'm one of those socially awkward guy over 30 years old who never had a girlfriend. I think I'm finally getting there with one but that was a crap load of work. I had to get WAYYYYY out of my comfort zone. What they said about "Seeing it as practice" is how I actually went about it. One day, I just waked up to a girl at work back when we worked at the same place and just asked a few questions and walked away. After that I had a reason to just say Hi because I already spoke with her before. I actually got really good at doing small talk with her over time. I went to see her to her workplace the other day and I was so stressed out that it took me 40 mins to get out of the house to go see her. Then I just drove in front of the place 3 times before finally stopping (I just wanted to run back home >_< ) She got a job as a barmaid and she was all alone in there, we spoke for 2 hours. Never thought I'd see the day when I would be able to hold a conversation with a girl this long. She was showing a lot of interest and after thinking about it for a while I'm positive she thought I'd kiss her at some point but I'm too dense to notice that kind of stuff and left before anything happened....... I'm just saying but, If you're in this situation where you've never done anything with a girl. It's definitely not as easy as "Just look confident", That is the stupidest comment people do to me. What you need to do, is make an effort. It's hard, REALLY HARD, but you have to be willing to take that chance to make something happen. Force yourself to get out of your comfort zone. I have to also add, don't worry about how much experience the girl has compared to you, or that you're not gonna be good enough for her. Start living for yourself, don't bother with what she'll think, just think about yourself for once. You're entitled to being happy too you know. I noticed girls don't generally have much of a physical attraction to men, at least initially, they want a mental connection with someone, which is why you need to talk to them to get noticed. If you wanna learn to hold a conversation with them look for a video here on youtube called "how to hold a conversation like a men with Nick Sparks" this is what I did at the bar the other day and it worked ridiculously well.
CrisMarin (2 years ago)
i was fucking since 5th grade
Emilio Hernandez (2 years ago)
If you find yourself reading this comment, its probably because you clicked on this video, and if you clicked on this video, its probably because you consider yourself an introverted, socially awkward individual with no chance whatsoever of attaining a girlfriend. And if you did watch you this video, you probably ended it having gained nothing from listening to these self-absorbed, pretentious fucks stroke their metaphorical cocks for 6 minutes. I'm here to save you. If any of the following applies to you, read the advice I'm about to drop. SCENE: You're at a party, staring at the bottom of your red solo cup which is filled with that inebriating elixir. You look up and see the plethora of people surrounding you, and immediately become aware of your distance from them- both literally and figuratively. You want to go and immerse yourself into the scene and be part of the party, but that little piece of shit voice in the back of your mind is telling you that you are incapable. So you believe it. Here's the catch. Don't fucking listen to that little piece of shit voice telling you that you don't know how. Awkwardness is inevitable in a relationship. The worst thing you could do to yourself is not give yourself the chance to score. A lot of times I feel like the issue here is that you probably don't know what to say half the time. And when you go to start a conversation (a precarious one of course) and come across that painful awkward silence, it can be fucking nerve racking. You know what you do? Use your surroundings to your advantage. Use your surroundings. Always a great first move. Talk about the party itself, if she's enjoying it or whatever, and then let the convo take flight. Look man, half the challenge is your mentality. You know how Michael Jordan prepared for Game 7 against the Utah Jazz, where he hit that fucking game winner and went home a champion? HE ENVISIONED HIMSELF SUCCEEDING. Be Michael Jordan. Conquer your mind. Hit that game winner.
Hammerit (2 years ago)
Just try? 100 tries later "Do you want hang out on this weekend? Nope!" How you can loose awkwardness when nobody agree on your attempt. You need "kamikaze" girl who will date with you for long time and then you can be free of awkwardness. So mine tip if some girl likes you just use her and train your date skills(is it morale? nope, but it is one cure). And then you can go for bigger fish.
aaronspencer30 (2 years ago)
I'm 37 years old still a Virgin never had a Date,Girlfriend,1st Kiss or anything cause Woman all My Life have been ignoring Me cause I ain't Good-Looking,Wealthy,or have an Average to Big penis.
gwf82 (1 year ago)
aaronspencer30 I'm going on 35 and in the same position as you, I get over looked by women I just don't even waste my time anymore.
aaronspencer30 (2 years ago)
I ain't better than nobody else.
aaronspencer30 (2 years ago)
Once again You are showing Me You have no Morals or Values by the way You are speaking to Me.
aaronspencer30 (2 years ago)
Trust Me You have no Morals or Values otherwise You wouldn't be talking about paying for Sex.
aaronspencer30 (2 years ago)
Sounds like to Me that You have NO MORALS or VALUES!
Jason Lee (2 years ago)
I hate it when people say "you are not the only one, there are other people who's in the same situation". Because in terms of dating, you can still say that to someone even when they are forty years old. We want what we want now, otherwise we wouldn't be looking for advice on the internet!
Erik Jinalu (2 years ago)
Basically don't watch this channel for dating advice or social advice. Do the opposite of everything people say you should do
ItsBerg (2 years ago)
I wish there was a medication I could take to improve confidence and self esteem.. Maybe something like the Limitless pill.🤔
Kram (2 years ago)
alcohol
chadbrochill19 (2 years ago)
This was retarded advice. - What they are saying is socially awkwardness is based mostly on fear, whether's it fear of being judged or you are judging and finding a person you like but have nothing in common with. - What they are trying to say is you can either find socially awkward people to hang out with OR you can swallow your fear and try something different. Be spontaneous - use socially awkward as a strength. Be weird. Let your freak flag fly. College is usually big enough to find SOMEONE - might not be perfect but usually it's for people who are too picky to begin with. Get to know someone, you'll be surprised. If you are awkward around girls - treat them like family members for the first few get togethers or meetings. Try to remove that feeling you get that boils anytime you are in a crowd. Goodluck.
Shalathus (2 years ago)
I'm not shy or anything, I'm actually really loud/confident and make lots of friends, I just get sooooo shy and embarrassed about anything remotely related to relationships. I also get super emotionally attached to people, even before I ask them out. I feel like I haven't been "taught" the ways of dating, relationships, love etc. so I don't know when to ask someone out, how, who might like me or is interested. I remember one girl who I was good friends with and I started to really like (don't know if it was love, I've never had a relationship so I don't have anything to base it off of), and I was sure she liked me too. I spent a lot of time at night thinking about it, saying to myself that I would ask her out, but whenever I talked with her, I never had the courage to do it before she moved. Thinking about how I'm a failure in that department just kinda makes me sad, wishing that I had some way to learn all of this. I'm not depressed or anything, because I have great friends and a good school life, I just really don't like that part of my life. This actually feels really good to get off my chest tho, even if it may never be read and I am saying it to an audience online, and especially through an anonymous alias >.>
INVI (2 years ago)
Yeah, you're one of those people. I'm like the opposite of you basically.
Dapper Ozzy (2 years ago)
"Most people don't have their first kiss until high school" well shit I was earlier that a virgin with a model!
Thijs van asselt (2 years ago)
+Parker Howenstein i think the same thing, it is kinda hard to get its language.
Parker t (2 years ago)
I think its trying to communicate
Thijs van asselt (2 years ago)
what are you saying?
Anderxale (2 years ago)
Don't invest yourself in an attraction unless you have dated. Ask for a date, it's not asking to be girlfriend or boyfriend. Rejection happens a lot, be ready for that.
N Ahmad (2 years ago)
I am 21 years old and finished my 3rd year university and had no girlfriend or kissed anyone before. Thanks for disappointing me!!
seknight (2 years ago)
bottom line teenage years suck
Thijs van asselt (2 years ago)
it sucks to a certain extent, not having to work and pay taxes is great though.
Connor 703 (2 years ago)
It's been great to me lol
What happens If (2 years ago)
The girl's character looks so fake, it looks like she's trying to fit in the program lol
WinterSplinterM.II (2 years ago)
So basically you tip is to not be socially awkward? Why did I never think of that? Thank you! I am now drowning in puss
StuffandThings85 (2 years ago)
it's easier to act your way into a new type of thinking, instead of thinking your way into a new way of acting.
WinterSplinterM.II (2 years ago)
+Thijs van asselt That is still not a tip. One can't just decide how to not give a fuck
Thijs van asselt (2 years ago)
my way is to not give a fuck (about how it goes) when approaching girls, it has worked decently to pick them up, however don't use that one follow up dates
WinterSplinterM.II (2 years ago)
+Dat One White Boi I hate how people are like "You just need to get out there!" like fucker the fuck you think I have been trying to do
That One White Boi (2 years ago)
Ikr? Its like they don't know that already
Randy Rosales (2 years ago)
Thank you ThinkTank for making this great Advice video. I'll take your Advice.
Bobbin (2 years ago)
if a socially awkward person could act like a cool guy i think he would
feniks van vooren (2 years ago)
true but i don't feel like people should change the way they act just to pleasure another person
osdrog (2 years ago)
These guys don't know a thing about socially anxious people. "Just ask girls out casually". I never act "casual" around people, let alone a girl I like. I believe that social anxiety leads to many difficulties and frustrations -i.e. not dating. Therefore, the way to achieve a healthy and satisfactory dating/love life is to address the main root of the problem. NEVER pretend to be someone else (that won't be a solution) and NEVER settle for less than what you think you deserve. Know, accept and love yourself enough to look after your happiness.
it's not pretending it's taking a step forward to learning how to deal with people
Ben (2 years ago)
I'm socially awkward but I don't wanna settle for a socially awkward girl. Don't be telling me I have to go for the nobody, you only live once and I don't wanna waste my life on a 7.
Josef Stalin (2 years ago)
Not wrong, if you are a douchebag the only girls thatll fuck with u are thirsty bitches who dont give a fuck, if you were ugly and super nice those bitches wouldnt fuck with u, maybe in between u two, like a one number difference, 5 and 6 or 9 and 10
pesston wuz (2 years ago)
+silverwasp wrong
silverwasp (2 years ago)
If you're a 5, don't expect anything above a 5. If you refuse to accept that, change yourself.
Ben (2 years ago)
+Joseph Stalin Well yea, but aside from like genetic disorders, even the really ugly people could look okay if they got in shape, fixed there hygiene, learned how to dress, and maybe got a good hairstyle. Like I said, I think almost everything that makes a man unattractive is something you can fix.
Josef Stalin (2 years ago)
Im pretty sure there are people that dont look at least ok
Moo Young Moon (2 years ago)
I can always count on Handgela and Palmela when I get lonely.
Moo Young Moon (2 years ago)
+Moo Youg Moon and if you can't pull off a trick as simple as the one I just mention, then I'm sorry to say that you're a retard.
Moo Young Moon (2 years ago)
But seriously. Why not stop thinking on how you look or how you feel. What about how the other person feel. simply introduce yourself and ask him or her how was his or her day went and start of with that and depending on how he or she answered can give you a good hint on what to say next. Maybe compare the other persons answer with yours and brake the ice with a silly joke and see how far it can go. Now think about it, if you really want to go up to that person, wouldn't it mean that you would want know that person. So why make it awkward and hope everything will go your way unless you're a creep. That's kind of selfish isn't it? There is no good answer to "how to get a girl" since everyone is different. But my advice is simple and pretty much you won't end up with slap in face, much less likely... Like I said every one is different , there's a freak for everyone. If you're not going to man up and try and go for it, you won't get anywhere.
dpistons149 (2 years ago)
He probably blew his brains out...
Mukhtar Abdulgafar (2 years ago)
What if you haven't gotten your first kiss at 20?
Jason Lee (2 years ago)
guess I should have done that a few years ago then
That one (2 years ago)
I am an introvert but I still have had girlfriends and friends with benefits. My advice is flirt with multiple women, people(whatever your preference). DONT get emotionally invested untill 3+ months of being in a relationship. and think of it as a game(sounds cold), play the right cards at the right time. whoever falls for the other person first loses(control). if they tell you they like you just say you think they are attractive but you want to get to know them better before saying you like them too. that gives you an excuse to hang out and puts the ball in your court for them to try to impress you so you return their feelings.
newbieshelper (7 months ago)
That one You dont sound like an introvert. You are most likely an extrovert who thinks that you are an introvert
That one (1 year ago)
+Lani Malcorps call it a "playboy" if you want Im not saying dont be loyal or anything like that. Im only talking about when your single, and you want to get a girl to like you. +Devesh Verma​ what the fuck is a twitter? Jk
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100 Spoons on a Table (2 years ago)
basically be a playboy?
stuffguy666 (2 years ago)
no one loves me :)
gwf82 (2 years ago)
I my self is also socially awkward and have dealt with rejection my whole life, I'm soon to be 34 and still a virgin. I have come to the conclusion that I'm destined to live alone because the advice that has been given to me tells me to be someone that I'm not or don't know how to be, I'm not physically attractive so that means I have to work much harder to achieve that same results as the attractive. Dating sounds so much like a game, now don't take this wrong, I like a good game but not one that's impossible to complete, and I have yet to find a game that's as impossible as dating. I have for years now not even tried to talk to women, there's just no place for me in their world. Having said what I just said will solidify the fact that I'm destined to live alone forever since I won't even try anymore and I will have to accept that, like I always say there is only so may times I'll try to pet that wild dog, but every time I always get bit, when I finally say fuck it
Levi vB (2 years ago)
Hey man c'mon don't say that... No matter what happens keep trying... rather lived a life trying to get in a relationship then lived a life accepting to live alone. And there are a whole lot (and I'm talking really big amounts) of ugly people whom found their significant other. If you wanna talk or something just hit me up, through my yt acc! Always there to help people in need :)
gwf82 (2 years ago)
I my self is also socially awkward and have dealt with rejection my whole life, I'm soon to be 34 and still a virgin. I have come to the conclusion that I'm destined to live alone because the advice that has been given to me tells me to be someone that I'm not or don't know how to be, I'm not physically attractive so that means I have to work much harder to achieve that same results as the attractive. Dating sounds so much like a game, now don't take this wrong, I like a good game but not one that's impossible to complete, and I have yet to find a game that's as impossible as dating. I have for years now not even tried to talk to women, there's just no place for me in their world. Having said what I just said will solidify the fact that I'm destined to live alone forever since I won't even try anymore and I will have to accept that, like I always say there is only so may times I'll try to pet that wild dog, but every time I always get bit, when I finally say fuck it
nobodysperfect06 (2 years ago)
yup, i don't like it but it's the way it is, there are times i feel resentful towards women because guys have to be the initiators so social-awkwardness is going to screw guys more than girls
DanT 123 (2 years ago)
Sorry but the subtitles were too distracting to actually pay attention to what you were actually saying....because half the time it was saying something completely different like "maybe not a lot but it think there are a guideline for family disappearance" lol
Dobromir Ivanov (2 years ago)
Advise: I used to be the most awkward person ever. Could not even speak to women even as friends. Here is an advise, go into a team. Doesn't matter what team, but in a team. I started training Atletics, but seriously training. I went to multiple nationals and internations and when I came out of that 1 year later, I was so calm. Literally, the president could speak to me and I would be speaking back to him like I speak to the dude next door that we used to play football with :)
uglyblokeonabike (2 years ago)
Wave a wallet about with a lot of cash in that will get the women flocking to you and won't care what you look like let alone sound like!
tranquility (2 years ago)
+lonelycyclist Yes I am brown, mother is from Trniidad and Tobago, the West Indies. So in this area, brown is treated like poison. I have a new vid out called more family drama or something to that effect. I think that much of what I say on that vid you can relate to. Knowing what I know now about how so many ppl are devoid of emotions, I never would have been intimate with anyone either.  I regret losing my v card to the idiot I gave it to. He was a total and complete idiot but when you are young, you think you are so deeply into that person. Only that is not who they really are, as usual it's a total misrepresentation. With me, I am who you see, nothing fake over here. I don't have the time nor the energy to be fake lol. Hugs, I know how you feel, and frankly I love animals bec they don't give two frigs about superficial things about yourself they love you for YOU.
uglyblokeonabike (2 years ago)
The wrong colour are you brown because I love Brown girls and by the way in Britain men don't care about such things except those like me that have a preference for black girls.The thing is British women no matter what their complexion tend to be very small minded and have very high standards so if you aren't good looking or well off financially you won't interest them at all.Well personally I have given up on the opposite sex I am still a virgin and I am 49 this year and I haven't even kissed a girl either.I am sure you wouldn't find me attractive if we met but you do sound nice on here.
tranquility (2 years ago)
+lonelycyclist Well if it makes you feel any better, i have done modeling, acting, and used to dance on stage as well as act on stage. I have been complimented on how I look which I just consider myself, just me. One, I am the wrong color, (Missouri is White washed) men around here prefer only white girls, and the other males that tried to jump into my life are extremely mentally ill/losers who live in houses that are falling apart and they are THRILLED to live that way. So it matters not how you look or who might be attracted, if you live in a sucky area which does not have enough decent ppl in your social circles, you will either choose to be alone, or settle for a loser which I have no desire to do. I am very good at entertaining myself, going to movies alone, eating out alone. I usually bring my fav magazine Cosmo with me, it's me and my magazine on a date together. Sure beats being with a loser, I have had too many of those and frankly done with it.
uglyblokeonabike (2 years ago)
Yes but you have to get a girlfriend in the first place so if you don't attract women you won't be able to go on picnics with them.
tranquility (2 years ago)
+lonelycyclist Honey, you really don't have to have a lot of money to have a gf. You can do romantic picnics, you can rent movies, you cook for her, go for romantic walks, bike ride together, you know things like that. A woman who is understanding of your situation, will not expect expensive meals or anything else expensive. If she has no concern for your personal situation, she is not the girl for you.
Almelo - (2 years ago)
Im 21 years old, never kissed/went on a date. Lost my virginity to a whore because of a bet and never in my damned life had a girlfriends, all rejections. Right now it has become so bad that I'm really developing a depression... I really just hate my life and because of 21 years of only rejections I just stopped trying and gave up, I barely have any damned fun in my life... Any advice from people that arent miserable?
damn there's alot of men in there 20's who haven't had a girlfriend or fucked/kissed a girl. I genuinely feel bad for you guys. maybe if you go after small fish you can earn your confidence back.
damn there's alot of men in there 20's who haven't had a girlfriend or fucked/kissed a girl. I genuinely feel bad for you guys. maybe if you go after small fish you can earn your confidence back.
N Ahmad (2 years ago)
same boat bro, i am also 21 and never kissed or had any official girlfriend!!
Jay Newman (2 years ago)
+aron bekhuis I think that the most important thing to have is self confidence. And part of that is to be willing to take rejection casually. It took me over 40 years to learn this.
Shawn Ravenfire (2 years ago)
Trying to pick up a socially awkward woman is pretty difficult too.  A lot of times, they're uncomfortable giving you a direct answer, so they keep telling you they'll get back to you or to ask them later.
Daemonk7 (2 years ago)
+Shawn Ravenfire two awkward people are like two negative charges. pretty silly advice. Socially awkward guys need to network in general. Hangout with guys that will set them up, wingman them, boost egos etc. If desperate enough use your own mother to grease social situations. I've seen it done lol
O Shap (2 years ago)
I have a friend who kissed a girl last year. PS WE ARE IN SEVENTH GRADE RIGHT NOW AS I SPEAK!!!!!
Almelo - (2 years ago)
No one cares you tiny piece of shit excuse for a human
Tom Mersy (2 years ago)
Is it just me or is it annoying when she does that hrmama noise, like she can not use a word, god I hate people like that!
Serginho Athirson (2 years ago)
Finally! Something other than the lame bromide "Just be yourself". You get a "like" just for that
Junaid Ahmed (2 years ago)
I am talk to girls in university and those in which i read but i keep positive thinking only junst friend or classmate or sister
I'm lovin it (2 years ago)
3 yrs to reply I'm sure the man already exploded in several different fashions...
BetaMalePodcast (2 years ago)
Suicide
Mr. Hyde (2 years ago)
If the girl doesn't like the way I am then she can fuck off. Yeah I am shy, I don't talk much and I'm not the "cool guy" or "bad boy" that girls usually are attracted to. If every girl in the world would reject me because of my personality then I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life than pretending to be someone I am not.
+döner bude well actually not 100% because there are some actual socially awkward people and it's not rare, like the ones in these comments for example. Unless they're over exaggerating.
+döner bude I agree with you %100 I'm a very quiet guy but I'm not socially awkward. I enjoy silence as do a lot of people
Mr. Hyde (2 years ago)
+Righteous Question mark The problem is that people try to make you think that certain character traits like being quiet and reserved is being socially awkward. But that's wrong. On the contrary, I think these character traits are praiseworthy. I mean I think it's quite nice to have a wife/husband who doesn't go around talking and laughing with every random man/woman they meet, right? But of course if these traits reach a level where you become anti-social and can't confront people anymore ...then it has become a phobia which needs a cure. But such an extreme case is rather rare.
you guys are missing the point of it. Being socially awkward isn't a bonus or being just yourselves it's something created from a lack of understanding how to react in social situations. Meaning that if you are socially awkward you are inexperienced at dealing with people.
Mohamed Abdirzak (2 years ago)
dude you are spot on right.i am quiet too around girls and the last thing i want is to prove myself to them
nope (2 years ago)
all my friends are going to homecoming, and I'll just be at home...Cumming
Luke Lenci (2 years ago)
+Hannah Cranston
schoondog86 (2 years ago)
First off the people that say to get a prostitute that is dirty, you don't want to get diseases and pay a random person a lot of money for a bit of physical pleasure. I wouldn't consider my self socially awkward, but I am more of an introvert. I am almost 30 and have never had a girlfriend or been on an actual date. I have only had one kiss before when I was about 20. Since I've been out of school for awhile and still live at my parents house its hard to meet women. I believe that I have such a hard time is due to a medical condition I have, where I do not drive. Thus I don't have much of a social life at all. I don't drink alcohol or smoke nor go to parties. Never had many friends since I was a child so I have pretty much given up all hope, but if any of you guys out there even have a halfway normal life don't get down. Just take it day by day and don't let any opportunities go by because of fear.
Jupiterr AJ (2 years ago)
I feel kind of trampy... Everyone here is saying like "I'm 26 and I haven't had my first kiss yet!" Umm... I'm 12 and my first kiss was a couple months ago...
Refuse Dreamz (2 years ago)
yeah your cool, kid.
Lance Truly (2 years ago)
Kid. Chill.
Simon Dover (2 years ago)
OK nerds, Big Bang Theory has already addressed this for you. Have a two beers. Women love confidence. Always worked for me. More than two will get you more girl than you can handle. So save the drunken behaviour for your male friends.
Almelo - (2 years ago)
+Simon Dover A bit late but yeah fuck it. I agree with you, confidence bring you sooo goddamn much in live like: Women and jobs etc. But for people with social anxiety they for some reason just cant be confident without help, they cant even fake confidence (luckily I dont suffer from social anxiety, Im rather confident if I do say so myself) Alcohol helps with that but too much alcohol (unless you give it to the girl, that will actually make it very fucking easy) will ruin it
Simon Dover (2 years ago)
+aron bekhuis Oh, to be be so young.
Almelo - (2 years ago)
Moron do you even know what social anxiety is?
revolutie (3 years ago)
1:33 she wanted to say ''oral''. guuuuuuuuuurrrrlll what you trying to say ahhaha
Metal Serpent (3 years ago)
I've been rejected over 200 times and I'm socially awkward. But I just get over the rejections and move on.
Dom Jervis (3 years ago)
I'm 57, never married, never even close.  I can count on one hand the number of women to whom I could even force out the words to ask out on a date and every one of them said no.  Most said "Listen, you're a nice guy, but..."  I retired last year and have more than enough money to last the rest of my life, maybe because I never had to spend any $ on dating.  The irony is, I'm guessing there are women out there who if they knew how financially set I am, they'd want to latch onto me like a remora onto a shark.  Sorry Ladies, you were unnecessarily mean to me when I thought I needed you, so I became a MGTOW.  I survived your humiliation and am now the happiest guy I know.  All of my friends are married with multiple kids and are miserable, some even to the point of considering suicide.  Life's strange that way, isn't it?
TheFlamingTornado1 (2 years ago)
Well, you're friends must have some shitty marriages and or kids lol
Smile Hard Productions (3 years ago)
I want that t shirt! President Lincoln/Cat in the Hat. Sweet.
Karla Kirkpatrick (3 years ago)
be yourself
tristan storaune (3 years ago)
i am very willing to be my life. that i will go through life into middle aged without ever having a relationship on any kind.
Almelo - (2 years ago)
+Slogan Wade Damn man I'm actually jealous of beeing aromamtic. I'm 21 and all that I've gotten in those years is pure brutal rejection. It's so bad that I'm actually not happy anymore... good on you my man
Slogan Wade (3 years ago)
+tristan storaune Well, are you aromantic or just socially awkward/anxious? Just curious, because I'm aromantic for the most part, and feel no real need for a relationship as others do, and that's okay.
kaitlyn Turner (3 years ago)
I'm 14 and I've kissed more guys than I can count
Pira (2 years ago)
+kaitlyn Turner I haven't kissed a single girl and I'm 14. o.o
Slogan Wade (3 years ago)
+kaitlyn Turner Basically, I'm saying that if you're saying that for bragging rights, you don't need to. But also not to accept any negative labels people put on you, because people are so quick to throw around hurtful names and insults.
kaitlyn Turner (3 years ago)
+Slogan Wade I'm confused
Slogan Wade (3 years ago)
+kaitlyn Turner Not really bragging rights, but that's your business and don't let others put you down or call you certain bad names for that. Coming from a swinger, what makes you happy is for you, not for anyone else. :)
Eloozionist (3 years ago)
Socially awkward people are more likely to find love online nowadays. People you meet there are going to be looking for a relationship also, so you already know they're single and wanting a relationship, so that throws out all the "Busy that night, washing my hair" or "Got a boyfriend" or other excuse crap. You'll get rejected purely for your profile and how you come across, and not because of bad timing. Which is a lot better than being rejected because of some made up excuse, or poor timing. No real social awkwardness when dealing with people online, you can be the real you without a care in the world, as we all know, hiding behind a screen.... So when it comes time for the meet and date, they already know you, and it's just a matter of seeing whether or not your online chemistry works in the real world, and both people are telling the truth.... Pro tip: Meet in a public place. Abandoned warehouses and dark alleys are bad.
The GoldenMostWanted (3 years ago)
i can talk really easy with girls but i always come in the friend zone and when i really like them. need help
Viridian (3 years ago)
2:36 So dating advice 101 lie about who you are and fake personality until everyone buys it and you get what you want. got it.
Viridian (2 years ago)
+Righteous Question mark Lol now look who's conflating what I say. Being socially awkward and not wanting to talk too people can be two very different things, it's obviously something beyond you., and you wouldn't ever understand. But then again humility doesn't seem to be a thing most people understand anymore.
Steve Alpha (2 years ago)
Sure, be yourself, but try to be your best self, the one you want to be.
+LegoSwordViedos ok well you took what I said a warped it into something else. The point of what I'm saying is being confident helps you. Yes being over confident and cocky is bad, but it's better than having no confidence. You act like having no confidence makes you magically smart and able to do cool things. You're wrong. You can be stupid and confident or extremely smart and confident. Either way what I'm trying to say is your way of looking at it is extremely immature and stupid.
Viridian (2 years ago)
+Righteous Question mark Not true, Being right, and being smart and being able to DO things trumps, the narcissist who thinks he can and is confident he can do it, when he can't. Confidence blinds people to their failures it stops improvement. You'll never amount to anything if you can't see things for what they are, simple as that. Acting confident will land people in a lot of messes as I watch them do constantly. All I have to do is avoid the same mistake and often times I come out ahead. Your notion of self aggrandizement is ill informed.
+LegoSwordViedos without the ability to be confident you'll never amount to anything. Simple as that
Mineav (3 years ago)
"Homecoming" sounds so fucking gay. Why do Americans give the most retarded sounding names to all of their events? Thanksgiving, Black Friday, etc. So fucking annoying.
PeanutButterBruce (2 years ago)
+Mineav omfg XD you're my favorite Russian ever!
Slogan Wade (3 years ago)
+Mineav Because Homecoming is when the 10 or 20 year graduates "come home" to their school to reconnect, hence "home-coming."
soakedbearrd (3 years ago)
Haha, made me laugh irl
soakedbearrd (3 years ago)
+Mineav Lay off the vodka comrade and go fuck your old aunt like a good ruskie
Alexander Colon (3 years ago)
Listening to and following the ways of RSD can and will change any shy man's life. The growth mindset is essential here. I used to be a cripplingly shy nerd, but now I daresay I'm more sociable, more eloquent, and more of an eligible bachelor than most.
Metal head (3 years ago)
I need big help there's this girl iv been knowing as small 4 year old but I want to be with her and also she lives across the country but I'm going to see her in a year and I have her number
Gowtham Natarajan (3 years ago)
I am 27 and never even touched a girl.
Mukhtar Abdulgafar (2 years ago)
You are screwed mate
niki123489 (2 years ago)
+Gowtham N omg me too, 26, ......sad
codRAGEmaster (2 years ago)
+Gowtham N i........dont know what to say to you sir
Josh (2 years ago)
+Gowtham N no worries dude, best of luck!
Elvir kadriev (2 years ago)
AHAHAHAHA
Pomme843 (3 years ago)
0:22 "I've never had a physical girlfriend ..." ???
Vitz (3 years ago)
Practice like drake 😏
The Thumper990 (3 years ago)
I used to be super socially awkward....now after being betrayed by everyone I know I have a "idgaf" attitude and it really has helped me become way less socially awkward. Some people just need to get hurt a lot by life and they'll come out of their shell.
Yoshi Mario (3 years ago)
Fake it until you become it
Dolorous Jaemi (3 years ago)
What if you're older? I'm 34 and still "painfully shy" and socially awkward even though I've had plenty of girlfriends through my 20's
ZQAA SWWE (3 years ago)
Sorry guys but I'm so not with you on this. Given advice is as follows: Her: become someone else Him: don't aim above your (low) level My advice would have been: some people have it easier than others, and you don't have it as easy as others do. But hang in there, keep being yourself. And eventually, no matter how awkward you are, you'll find that special someone. She could be a model, a cheerleader, or just some fat ugly chick with no self-esteem. Whatever. But don't go about your life thinking you're worth less than others or that some people are just too good for you. It's just not the case. In fact, you're probably smarter than average, and until you figure things out you'll be a little awkward. Maybe you'll always be awkward. IT DOESN'T MATTER. Patience. Some have to wait longer than others, some need more time to figure themselves out - and the world too for that matter. HANG IN THERE BROTHER. You'll get the pussy eventually. The wait will only make it even more delicious. And if all else fails... hookers. Go for the hookers. You won't get to learn about relationships, etc but you will know what it feels like to be naked in front of someone for the first time. I'm dead serious about this. Go with realistic expectations. Oh brother! the pussy is just soooooo sweeeeeeeeeeeeeet !!!!!!!!!!!
ZQAA SWWE (3 years ago)
+ZQAA SWWE Just don't go to a shrink about lacking confidence or being socially awkward. They're just going to mess with you head even more and you won't get anything out of it. You need someone to hold your hand and show you how it's done. Go for the hooker. You'll be more confident and a little less lost once your Woman comes along and grabs you.
ZQAA SWWE (3 years ago)
+ZQAA SWWE I'm half joking about the hooker bit. Only half joking. You'll find hookers (I use the word affectionately, not in a demeaning way) can be extremely understanding, compassionate and patient. If you do this, take time to find an escort who is especially personable. Maybe write an email or text you can send out explaining (in brief at first) your basic situation, your lack of experience, your greatest fears, etc. Hookers can provide a (limited) form of therapy which I found very useful, and I only met with one twice. If you're not ready for the hooker bit, go to a massage parlor, it's the same thing but toned down. Connect with your body under someone else's touch. It did me a lot of good.
NaruTheBlackSwan (3 years ago)
Confidence should ideally be from the inside to be displayed outwards, but there's nothing wrong with getting some form of confidence from the outside that will make you more confident inside. Don't try to fake confidence, it is more awkward than acting awkward. Get in shape, exercise increases endorphins making you happier as well as gets you closer to a body you'll flaunt knowing you're a hot dude. Find some friends, it really is as simple as joining a club or sports team. Learning how to interact with people in general really helps. P.S. Some girls think nervousness is cute, don't be too ashamed to play that card.
vaggelis marinakis (11 months ago)
great advice bro, ur right on!
Josh S (3 years ago)
These subtitles are trippy as hell
TheMerryPup (3 years ago)
I was socially awkward in high school. Now I'm 56 and living in a cabin in Montana formerly occupied by a "T. Kaczynski." It's gonna happen for me soon. Any day now. Any day.
Adam (3 years ago)
lel i got my first kiss when í was 6
Adam (3 years ago)
+Mark Wasson k if u say so i dont care about when i got my first kiss it was still just false love well she used her tongue i will not forget it was against my will  
Mark Wasson (3 years ago)
+adam ali Thats not a real kiss....
PirateMrTyler (3 years ago)
dating Tip for a sociall y awkward guy: learn to eat ass, eat ass, eat your own ass in public and let the Ladies see you eat this ass, they will want to get their ass Ate By You
Colloquial Potato (3 years ago)
Don't come here for dating advice if you're a man. Go to RSDTyler's channel. He knows what the hell he's talking about.
Will Hart (3 years ago)
so by practicing talking to girls i just go to the mall or whatever and just ask for hella girls numbers
. LIVEMUSIC5 (3 years ago)
i am so socially awarkard and inept. i and trying too overcome it going slowly and i am shy also.

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