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Decoding Male Body Language

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How do you attract men? What are men looking for when they decide who to approach? Are your flirt signals really working? Is there something you can do to seem more open and likable? How can you let a guy know you are interested and encourage the right kind of interaction? At least 60% of our overall communication is through body language and nonverbal communication. If you want to know how to decode the men in you life --your partner, boss, colleague, friend then you've come to the right place! Want the details? Read the full article here: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/2013/07/male-body-language/ ****** Vanessa Van Edwards is Lead Investigator at Science of People — where she unlocks the formulas and patterns behind human behavior for hundreds of thousands of students in over 200 countries. She is the national bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding With People, available in 14 languages around the world. Her work has been featured on CNN, NPR, BBC, Fast Company and dozens more. Can’t get enough of Science of People? Check out our Praiseworthy Performance audio guide 👉 https://www.scienceofpeople.com/start/ ****** Did you enjoy the video? If so, give it a like above! Subscribe to our channel for more human behavior hacks and communication strategies 👉 https://youtube.com/c/Vanessa-Van-Edwards P.S. Make sure to keep up with us by clicking the bell!
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Vanessa Van Edwards (1 month ago)
Has a guy ever missed the flirting signals you were trying to send them? What happened? Were you able to start a conversation or did the moment pass you by? For more tips and tricks on how to read body language and have an unforgettable conversation, visit our website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/
Mark Zaney (3 days ago)
What about a stare and NO smile from a woman? What does that mean?
Kaden Carr (1 month ago)
These videos are timeless
Lily Iglesias ツ (4 hours ago)
"What's woman's favourite male body part"? I thought butt! Lol I'm a clairvoyant 😂😂😂😂 true. Actually I like a good butt, broad shoulders and salient veins 😍😍😍😍
Suzanne Dawson (13 days ago)
Women can almost always tell when men are lying. So why do they keep attempting it? And for the record, if a man has beautiful sculpted male hands, it's much more interesting than his butt. But I guess that's just me
Rolando Bradley (1 month ago)
What about 6pac abs been a favorite part
Vivienne Kate (2 months ago)
5:41 Cardi B ???
ewere oyeze (2 months ago)
I love a man's chest
Pmedic605 (2 months ago)
My God! He is just a blithering idiot!
Vicious Blade (2 months ago)
That moment when you find out men are dumb 2:05
Jayashree Sreedharan (2 months ago)
Bread crumbings
Patrick Tenorio (2 months ago)
Rickus Kruger (3 months ago)
I dont lie for power what nonsense!!
Lejla Sas (3 months ago)
I like arms on men the most.
Lejla Sas (3 months ago)
😂🤣She is great!
Ramone' Detroitguam (3 months ago)
...so women are complicated!?
icecreamforcrowhurst (3 months ago)
Dave needs to stop trying to funny
Ted Pendlebury (3 months ago)
I'm with Cobalt below - this was supposed to be about male body language.
Wendy Navarro (4 months ago)
Sounds like lessons of how to be fake! Nope thanks! #beyourself #rememberyourmanners
Caitlyn Bryan (4 months ago)
I prefer faces over butts, but jimin has a nice face and butt and he's my bias so what do I know maybe it's both? But I think probably faces more, unless its jimin then its both
Nicholas Khupsian (4 months ago)
I thought women look the groin area
Trish Estes (4 months ago)
The gut is distracting. When he's trying to b funny
Kinga Gorski (4 months ago)
These are so fascinating! I can see how women's brains would like up 3x more than men's, lol.
Hathor (4 months ago)
I didnt know pheromones went from my neck... dammit!
Shona Ranae Savage (4 months ago)
The men I know who shake their head no why they are lying mean it as a joke. Tease about it.
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Manar M.H. (5 months ago)
Abdul Kuddus (5 months ago)
Is it needed ! Ha ha They are obvious
Christel Colla (5 months ago)
fat shaming is out, take note.
Cecilia xoxo (5 months ago)
the guy is really annoying with how often he interrupts Vanessa. let the woman TALK FFS.
Desert Rose (6 months ago)
I like a man's face and butt.
chrisj1011 (6 months ago)
What??!;? Women and men are not the same Feminist heads explode in 4 3 2 1
Monica Levy Tyler (6 months ago)
I disagree. My favorite male body part is the back
jane cumberbath (6 months ago)
Very nice and cute interviewers
Kimberly Blaine (6 months ago)
Well I am fascinated by how many men say they don’t find “high maintenance” attractive and they end up with them every. single. time. This also applies to the “crazy/stalker” types who men also claim to want nothing to do with. Have you done research on that ? I would be so interested because most of the ladies I know who are normal, well adjusted, charming, approachable are standing around wondering why all the guys are with the women who criticize, stalk, etc, etc.....
Ted Pendlebury (3 months ago)
I do hope you're not having a hard time finding a man - you're quite the pretty lady.
Yahya Ekananta (7 months ago)
and he wanted to say "DICK"
Nikita Maurya (7 months ago)
But I like structured chest.
Nikita Maurya (7 months ago)
But if they butt is small then i wouldn't be attracted to him.
Nikita Maurya (7 months ago)
I wish you were my sibling..
Christine Christine (7 months ago)
Does this guy even science smh a theory?! You mean a hypothesis.
Arlene Regos (8 months ago)
This gentleman is so funny every time he says something it's funnier than the last! I could so easily get along with this guy I've never seen in my life, but he is freaking hilarious! I got to figure out who the hell this guy is oh my God but seriously it's amazing how one channel has about 500 videos on this and it's the robot giving you bad advice as always. So much contradictory information on YouTube it's absolutely insane.
MONTENEGRINA (9 months ago)
You can see her intelligence through her humor and the way she's speaking... amazing girl
Robin Thompson (9 months ago)
My favorite male body part is the arms.
little paws (9 months ago)
So in conclusion: women are better. 😇😈
Terry Dillon (9 months ago)
No, no, no, no. Mormon women CHASE mates among the return missionary pool and it is cutthroat. But for Catholic (especially INTJ ) women, if I have to manipulate a man before I am ALREADY sexually intimate in order to attract him, then this automatically disqualifies him as a mate. My God. Women UNCONSCIOUSLY express sexual interest without forethought. The man needs the smiles and the open body language that is NATURAL not contrived and that is sufficient to make him pursue. Women's favorite body part on a man is his wallet. Male pheromones are scientifically documented to exist. Female pheromones remain theoretical. Behavior changes during estrus may be what is attracting men.
Milos Beltram (9 months ago)
A woman must have foxy eyes. Thats all.
Elektrolyfe (9 months ago)
"just hand him her number" fuk ding ding ding
PrettyGreenMaiden (9 months ago)
You know what sucks? When you're encouraged to smile and be helpful/friendly to customers but they take it as meaning you're interested. So you think "am I being too friendly" so then you dial back on the friendliness but it doesn't seem to help regardless of what you do. Hell even when I don't smile I get "the look". Like...out of the blue intense gaze, hardly blinking or kind of unfocused. One time I was helping someone I barely even looked at. I was so busy frowning at the computer due to a glitch. I looked up to apologize for the issue only to be shocked by the look on this guy's face. I instinctively leaned back a bit. I wanted to ask if he was okay. Dude was trying to peer into my soul. There's _no_ reason to look at someone you don't really know *_that_* intimately. Another example. My colleague helping a male customer set up an account. I hear her voice, then his. Shrug, business as usual. Happened to glance over...this dude...had his body completely turned towards me, just looking at me as if I had been talking to him. Confused, thinking maybe my colleague had called me for help or something I look at her. She's just typing away on her computer, entering information...so what in the actual...fucc?! I've noticed that when some, not all, dudes come up to my work and have to take identification out of their wallet or pocket, they will maintain eye contact from under their brow as the dig for their info. ??? Why are you looking at me?! Look at your wallet. Male body language cues from personal experience: intense or hazy gaze, squaring shoulders, tilting up the chin, leaning a bit forward into personal space at times, staring at the mouth, turning their body towards you. Perhaps in a different setting these would be more welcome but I've learned the heard way how to not be overly friendly and too helpful at work. I lower the pitch of my voice, make brief eye contact before focusing on an eyebrow, glancing away towards my computer screen for a moment. Brief small smile at the beginning along with a basic "hello how may I help", then back to neutral face. Sitting up straight and not leaning over. Among other things. Amazingly it still doesn't work!🤔
Sparrow (10 months ago)
The guy was hilarious 😂
Reading body language is useless for males that we are natural leaders
Rhoda Donavan (10 months ago)
So, the above was shown in place of the Lisa Nichols vid in the line up, while I've had Auto-play on... I commented below about this, having noticed a lack of Auto-plays when vids hv bn of people classed as "Black." After This vid... though I still hv Auto-play ON, the vid simply stopped at the end without moving on to the next vid, in a now long list of only V Van Edwards vids. My Q b4 was, basically, "Is this intentional complexionism," YouTube? I here re-submit the same Q with regard to similar/related forms of "Auto-selection" and "Auto-responsiveness." NON-YOUTUBE AFFLIATES ARE ASKED NOT TO RESPOND. RESPONSES FROM YOUTUBE REPRESENTATIVES ONLY ARE REQUESTED. THANK YOU.
ApocaLIPS Gorgeous (10 months ago)
Nope! Not the butt......shoulders.
A Masood (10 months ago)
How about cultural influence on behavioral psychology?
Maria Alwan (10 months ago)
wow hes so uncomfortable and closed composition.. quite insecure as well!
Alex Criss (10 months ago)
hi I have this guy in work that also happens to be my boss that seems (sometimes ) to flirt or be flirty or he is just friendly. I have all the raised eyebrows face lighten up when he seems me,leaning forward (very close sometimes ) when he speaks to me ,pointing feet thats not always the same and his hands are on his hips or pockets.he seems to send wrong signals sometimes. Oh yeah and we are both committed
taurini intp airbender (10 months ago)
i mainly notice a guy’s eyes, smile/teeth, & chest/arms. imo, the shape of a guy’s butt & legs are the most trivial & unimportant part of his body. even with long-term ex-partners, i honestly can’t recall ever paying any attention to legs & butt. i’m completely baffled how those ever make the top answers on womens’ surveys.
whosaid2 r (10 months ago)
Tell em why her tongue is pierced, ask even some gay guy (no offense). Vanessa got great advice, looks great but in less than a day I'm done. Go for your alpha male , I live for myself and answer to no one ! Bye W
Jhon John Jon Jon Doe (10 months ago)
I have advice for all men. Just build your body evenly and possibly work on your back and legs 2 times more then any other body part and doesn't matter what body part you have the females will have a favorite body part of the male on you.
Cole E (10 months ago)
Why not just ask the man that’s sitting at the table?
CMkarma 555 (10 months ago)
What about the face i would think women goes for a good looking guy that had a beutiful face and if the body is nice also then yey!
crazy.funny,dumb, jerk (10 months ago)
we notice. but we ignore. or we just dont want
Amber Deen (10 months ago)
a man's butt?!?! most of the time a man's butt can't really be seen because of clothing and the way that men's bodies are in general...
6969Nicole (10 months ago)
She’s incredibly smart
HNTR KLLR (11 months ago)
Availability doesn't mean cheap or slutty btw; It just means being friendly and interested. Showing interest doesn't have to mean sexual interest.
smash (11 months ago)
Why does this look like it was filmed in 2003? Ever thought of upgrading the camera?
Ted Pendlebury (3 months ago)
Or 1983. Must be some small town tv station.
K S (11 months ago)
unfortunately they only spoke about female body language and how the men take long time to notice... UGH
Sherry Gilardian (11 months ago)
I rather shoulder and chest
Sherry Gilardian (11 months ago)
Yuk why would I care about a mans butt 🤮🤢
Mato Lato (11 months ago)
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Debbie Parker (11 months ago)
so that would explain police brutality. lol jk but they should really study that
meraw (1 year ago)
why am i watching this cancer
Tomeka Tomlinson (1 year ago)
The host...Her laughter at the numbers.😂😊
Maria (1 year ago)
Not for me. I love a man's hands if they are manly. I once met this man with practically NO arm hair. I felt I was stroking a woman. Hated it.
Hannah Wenger (1 year ago)
For me it's not the butt. I notice more the jaw bone and chest/arm/shoulder muscles.
MARK K. (4 months ago)
You haven’t seen my butt 😏😬
Jhon John Jon Jon Doe (10 months ago)
I think all women notice the chest back and shoulders the most. Those are the traits when displayed correctly will display a Alpha male is in front of them. It is what the animal kingdom has always noticed in any male who knows how to display that trait and shows when a mans interested in a girl. Normally i believe that the female will mirror his actions if she is interested and if he notices it will drive him crazy inside and naturally the flirty courtship will happen.
Amanda Schwartz (1 year ago)
arms 100%
Advaith T (1 year ago)
"Hand him your phone number"! really!?
Carmyna (1 year ago)
I always toss my arms.. Thats probably why guys treat me like I'm their sister.
Garry Burgess (1 year ago)
Vanessa is a babe-o-la.
Jeremiah Skafec (1 year ago)
Vanessa spent about a fifth of the elapsed time talking about male body language. The majority of the video was her recapping female body language. The show hosts distracted her from her focus and did not enhance the experience​ in any way. Vanessa is intelligent I would suggest finding a better show in which Vanessa can teach the public and plug her book.
Marc Beebuzz (1 year ago)
I guess men don't have body language! Not a mention of it.
JJ All (1 year ago)
He's hilarious 😂
The Onlyone (1 year ago)
The main reason they didn't decode any male body language is because it's pretty easy to tell what we want and how we feel, we don't really give off hints.
rachid fachat (1 year ago)
this is stupid it's all about women nothing about men...................... waste of time
Chris Holman (1 year ago)
This is such Bs.
Cookies and Milk (10 months ago)
Chris Holman liking this comment for the picture of fig newtons 😋
mike roshaft (1 year ago)
ok men don't necessarily miss courtship signals, they just have trouble determining if the signals are genuine or not
Mark Zaney (3 days ago)
+wendeln92 Interesting... Women "Testing" for Attractiveness. Maybe that explains the stares with no smile.
wendeln92 (1 month ago)
mike roshaft said: "ok men don't necessarily miss courtship signals, they just have trouble determining if the signals are genuine or not" - Exactly what I was going to say. Many women - and especially married women - like to test their attractiveness on a regular basis. First, some of us cannot tell if they are genuinely interested or just playing. Second some men don't care and just go for it  Some of us might want to see if it is genuine interest, but are not really interested in her, OR we think we might be interested, but then start wondering what kind of nut-case we are going to have to deal with.
Steven Iavarone (5 months ago)
Exactly Mike!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Many women give off timid signals...very timid...and we are supposed to read their minds!???
Jhon John Jon Jon Doe (10 months ago)
very true. We get in our heads too much and think maybe it wasn't what we thought it was.
the show hosts blab too much
Archimedes555453525 (1 year ago)
So men are liars and take up too much space? Thank you for your analysis.
SkyBlueAugust (1 year ago)
Interesting to watch the body language of the male interviewer - especially when they were talking about women's favorite male body parts!
zubayer zahin (1 year ago)
venessa I fell in love on you.
SpiritualPunk (1 year ago)
this is so good! i know tv cuts things for time but id really love a more extensive version!
Anis Dhouieb (2 years ago)
Vanessa, I love your smile I love your body language and I love the way your eyes shine when you say "I love talking about men , it's exciting".
Martial G (2 years ago)
Heres an easy way to decode my body language if ur a hot bitch & i wanna hit
armando lee (2 years ago)
4:45 Vanessa very often goes like that...ha ha.
Richard McLaughlin (2 years ago)
This wasn't actually about male body language; it was about males' interpretations of female body language.
Metalhead82to11 (2 years ago)
the availability point is very true
Sampath Kamal (2 years ago)
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Awesome Andrew (2 years ago)
this is why I miss the cues. Subtle hints I don't get.....obvious hints I don't get.........just talk to me and express some words that show an interest. Something like after talking for a bit......"hey, would you like to meet up tomorrow for lunch?" No hints....just direct to the point. Then I can say no, you are a hussy for trying to captivate me with your pheromones
Delnaaz J (6 months ago)
Awesome Andrew llol
Anime kid (7 months ago)
Awesome Andrew I’m a girl and I feel the same I’m not great at telling if someone likes me well a little but if it’s someone I like I try to make sure it’s logical before I get my heart crushed 😑😐😅
bengalifob2 (10 months ago)
Girls never want to seem too eager
My Sabic (2 years ago)
You've got inferiority complexes, and definitely a small penis.
Sarabu50 (2 years ago)
MaidenAirTM (2 years ago)
im i the only one who has a crush on van edwards
Uriel7623 (2 years ago)
she can get it
Oriana cc (2 years ago)
I must say that you are really good on it. I am practicing what I have learned while I was watching your videos, I did help me in a lots of ways. thanks
Oriana cc (2 years ago)
Vanessa how about the body language in celebrities for example cate Blanchett and rooney Mara?
John Christie (2 years ago)
p martin (2 years ago)
Maybe men miss the cues because theyre not use to seeing "charming" women anymore (instead its hard, aggressive,). Good fun video none the less.

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